ALL THE LONELY PEOPLE

A Healthy Minds Monthly Poll reported by the American Psychiatric Association (APA) in early in 2024 found that 30% of adults said they experienced feelings of loneliness at least once a week while 10% said they felt lonely every day over the past year. Unless otherwise noted the following assertions are from this poll.

What do I mean by lonely? “Feeling like you do not have meaningful or close relationships or a sense of belonging.” This is the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC)’s definition of loneliness.

Who are All These Lonely People?

They’re young. People aged 18-34 were the loneliest, with 30% saying they felt lonely every day or several times a week.

They’re single. Singles were nearly twice as likely as married adults to say they had been lonely on a weekly basis over the past year (39% vs. 22%).

Overall, 63% of men reported feelings of loneliness in this year’s survey, a ten-point increase from a year ago. For women, the increase was not as sharp; 58% of women reported loneliness this year, up from 54% a year ago.

In May 2023, U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy, M.D., M.B.A., called loneliness a public health epidemic. APA President Petros Levounis, M.D., M.A. said, “The U.S. Surgeon General is correct to label it as a public health problem with troubling outcomes…”

Where are We not Lonely?

The 2200 survey respondents ranked areas where they felt the highest sense of community and belonging:

  • Among their family (65%)
  • With friends (53%)
  • In their neighborhoods (20%)
  • At work (17%)
  • On social media (16%)
  • At the gym or fitness classes (5%)
  • With sports and recreational teams (4%)
  • In online communities and discussion forums (3%)

Responses to many options hovered toward the middle (full details available in the report).

How Do People Cope?

Respondents reported easing their loneliness many ways (selected from a list of choices provided) most notably:

  • Younger adults are more likely than older adults to say they use drugs or alcohol when feeling lonely.
  • Females are 1.5 times more likely than males to say they reach out to a friend or family member.

Is Technology a Help or a Hindrance?

Technology, when used carefully, can help alleviate loneliness. Many survey participants reported that technology…

  • “Helps me form new relationships” (66%)
  • “Helps me connect with others more frequently” (75%),
  • “Is beneficial for forming and maintaining relationships” (69%)

However, respondents were split on the types of relationships technology fosters, “meaningful (54%)” or “superficial (46%).”

Saul Levin, M.D., M.P.A., APA CEO and Medical Director

Age and Technology

Various sources slice the pie differently, but basically support the conclusions of the APA report. According to a CNBC report of January, 2023 a survey of 10,000 adults found:

  • Three out of every five adults, or 61%, report that they sometimes or always feel lonely, according to the Cigna U.S. Loneliness Index. That’s up 7 percent from the previous year.
  • Among workers aged 18-22, 73% report sometimes or always feeling alone, up from 69% a year previously.

There is a greater feeling of loneliness among people who use social media more frequently, the study found. One reason younger people feel more isolated may be their greater tendency to use social media. The study found an increasing correlation between social media usage and feelings of loneliness. Seven out of 10 heavy social media users, 71%, reported feelings of loneliness, up from 53% a year ago. That compares to 51% of light social media users feeling lonely, up from 47% a year ago.

Lonely on the Job

At work, men appear to feel much more isolated than women. Forty percent of men reported feeling a general sense of emptiness when they’re at work, compared to 29% of women.

Another reason younger people may feel more alienated could have to do with being at the bottom rung of the employment ladder. Entry-level workers scored significantly higher on the Cigna Loneliness index than experienced workers, middle managers and executives. More than half felt there’s no one at work they can turn to.

Nearly two-thirds of workers who’d been at a job less than six months reported experiencing isolation, compared to just 40% workers who’ve been with a firm for 10 years or more.

But it is just as lonely at the top of the ladder. Fifty-six percent of senior executives reported feeling there’s no one they can talk to, with 69% saying that no one really knows them well.

Baby Boomers and workers older than 72 are the most likely to feel that they generally have people they can turn to at work and really understand them, with only 18% reported feeling alienated on the job.

Cigna researchers estimate that employees who feel socially isolated miss work as much as five times more than their connected co-workers due to stress, and are twice as likely as to think about quitting their jobs.

Health Risks of the Lonely

Social isolation and loneliness can increase risk for health and work problems:

  • Heart disease and stroke
  • Type 2 diabetes
  • Depression and anxiety
  • Suicidality and self-harm
  • Dementia
  • Earlier death

Cost of Loneliness

As with so much in the healthcare system, cost is often what triggers getting help. The hope is that by addressing some of the so-called social determinants of health that contribute to isolation among seniors, Medicare can reduce spending. To this end:

  • Medicare plans are offering greater flexibility to focus on the impact of social isolation on the health of older adults.
  • Researchers from AARP and Stanford University found that the government spends more than $6.7 billion annually on additional medical costs for Medicare recipients who lack social contact.
  • Cigna is advising companies to do greater outreach about mental health counseling to help workers deal with stress.
  • Cigna also offers expanded virtual mental health services to make accessing care more convenient and attractive for younger workers.
  • Employers should also look for ways to promote greater in-person communication among workers, including programs that foster more connections like affinity groups and volunteer activities.
  • The Cigna study found that people who get more time interacting face to face with others at work feel less lonely or alienated. More than half of remote workers who telecommute, 58%, reported feeling left out at work.

How to Deal With Loneliness

Please note: the following are on-line suggestions, offered for information only, not as professional advice.

Alone vs Lonely

Know your loneliness is normal. Everyone goes through lonely periods in life. Feeling lonely does not mean there’s something wrong with you. Feelings of loneliness often come and go during life. Sometimes the best thing to do is accept you feel lonely in the current circumstances and that this is okay.

  • Boost your self-esteem by finding things to do that are achievable and building on them little by little.
  • Enjoy your own company. Spending time alone can be liberating and being alone with your thoughts can be a great way of winding down.
  • Often we like the company of people who are comfortable in themselves. Learning to be on your own and like your own company is a step towards this kind of confidence.
  • Online communities can be a great social outlet, but do not rely on them too much. Make sure you balance your social life and make the effort to talk to people in person.
  • Take what you see online with a pinch of salt. People often publish the best of themselves online. Try not to compare yourself to other people’s photos and posts. And don’t spend too much time online.

Meeting New People

Keeping yourself busy is a good way to deal with loneliness.

  • Parenting alone can also feel isolating, especially when your children are younger. It may be helpful to seek out adult company and maintain existing friendships.
  • If you’re on your own in a new place, a hobby can be a great way of meeting new people and making new friends.
  • If you’re feeling lonely for no obvious reason, doing an evening class or sport can help take your mind off it. Consider activities to do with others.
  • Being unemployed can also can cause you to feel isolated. If you’re bored or cannot find a job, volunteer with an organization you care about or an event you might be interested in. Feeling needed and useful is important sometimes.
  • When you’re lonely, you may place too much weight on new friendships and relationships. Build trust gradually, take it slow and accept your new friends as they are. Take your time with new relationships.
  • Be wary of certain groups. Cults and gangs often target lonely people, knowing they might be vulnerable. Make sure the group you join is a positive influence and makes you feel good about yourself.

Getting Support

If you’re constantly lonely for no obvious reason, it could be a sign of depression. This is something you should talk about to family, friends, a counsellor, or your GP.

CrisisTextLine offers free, confidential support via text or chat. (Text 741741)

The AARP has initiatives to help people build community and volunteer. The also have a Friendly Voice helpline to call if you’re looking for a friendly person to talk to.

Just like dating apps, friendship apps allow people the opportunity to match with potential new friends online. Two examples are BumbleBFF and MeetMyPaws.

MeetUp is a social networking website that allows users to organize in-person activities to meet others who share their interests or hobbies.

Bottom Line: Loneliness is pervasive, normal, and problematic for good health and work success. Choose a way to cope that works for you;

DANCING

One of my favorite books is Pride and Prejudice (Jane Austen) and in one famous scene, Sir William is extolling dance as an exemplar of culture and elegance. Darcy observes that every savage can dance.

10,000 year old painting of dancers, Bhimbetka, India

To put it more elegantly: Dancing has always been a part of human culture, rituals, and celebrations. It promotes creativity, as well as healthy minds and bodies.

Many belly dancers perform in restaurants and at parties.

According to a friend of mine who belly dances, that form of dancing does all of the above. “Belly dancing has historic roots in fertility rites or celebrations in some areas. I’ve performed at baby showers and bachelorette parties. It’s so much fun, and I’ve met so many friends through dancing. It also helps me stay in shape and keep flexible. I get to design costumes, learn music, and create choreography while learning this amazing art form!”

Obviously, any given dance might serve multiple purposes. For this blog, I’ll focus on three categories.

Ceremonial Dance

Since humans formed societies, social groups have created or performed ceremonial dances for rituals or celebrations. People use ceremonial dances all over the world for worship, or to celebrate life events. The unique British tradition of Morris dancing, for example, is performed at seasonal festivals and holidays to banish the dark of winter, celebrate the warmth and fertility of summer, and bring in autumn’s golden harvest. The category of ceremonial dance also includes classical Indian dances, war dances, corroboree, Căluşari, and dances of Native American and West African culture.

Adumu, the Maasai jumping dance, forms an important part of coming of age ceremonies, weddings, and celebration rituals. Participants dress in colorful garments and traditional jewelry and often carry spears. Individual dancers compete with each other to jump as high as possible while maintaining a straight and upright posture. Dancers are judged on the height of their jumps as well as their grace.

Marinera Paso is a Mestizo dance that mimics courtship rituals in Peru. The female dancer, accompanied by Spanish, African, and Creole instruments, marks the rhythm and leads her partner on horseback.

Dancing the Haka involves a combination of stamping, chanting, showing the whites of the eyes, and rhythmically slapping body parts with the hands. Maori people perform various Haka forms to welcome guests, issue challenges, and mourn loved ones. Recently, the Te Pāti Māori party went viral for performing a Haka in the New Zealand Parliament to express their opposition to a proposed bill.

Young women in Bali perform the Rejang Adat to welcome the gods during Kunnigan. They do not train or practice before the ceremony. Instead, they rely on their ngayah (dedication) to allow the gods to inspire their movement and harmony.

Rain Dances

Many agricultural societies have a tradition of rain dances. These dances ask the gods or spirits to send water for crops during the planting season. Other rain dances ask for rain during long periods of dry, hot weather. In Romania and Moldova, a young girl dresses in a skirt made of corn husks and dances through the village streets while people splash water on her. In 2022, the Dumagat tribe performed a rain dance during a drought in the Philippines. They claimed success as it rained three days later.

In the Southwestern United States, many tribes, including the Pueblo, Hopi, Zuni, and Apache, have elaborate rain dance traditions. The specifics of the dances vary from tribe to tribe. Most tribes have unique rituals and costumes, with some tribes wearing headdresses and others wearing masks.

In the early 19th century, the United States government banned certain ceremonial dances. To bypass these strict laws, tribal members would mask their ceremonial performances as “rain dances.”

Dance for Recreation and Community

This is any form of dancing that is for entertainment, fitness, fun, or strengthening community ties. Also known as social dancing, it uses dance without too much structure, as a way to let loose and express one’s own individual personality. Dancers focus less on form and technique and more on the joy they feel from dancing. Examples of recreational dancing include ballroom, line dancing, aerobic dance, or dance as a hobby.

Gumboot Dance evolved from mines in South Africa. Workers unable to communicate verbally developed a system of stomping signals to pass messages.

Ballroom Dance

Like many forms of dance, dancesport has been adapted for a range of abilities.

Historians trace the history of ballroom dance back to the 16th century in Europe, where it was primarily a social activity for the upper classes. However, it wasn’t until the 19th century that participants began to formalize and standardize ballroom.

Commonly used as shorthand for any partner dance, ballroom has today evolved into two main sub-genres: standard/smooth and Latin/rhythm. Dances within these categories include the waltz, tango and foxtrot, and the pasodoble, bolero, and samba.

Ballroom is a popular form of competitive dance, or dancesport, with dancers participating in competitions all over the world.

Who can think of ballroom dancing without envisioning Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers? Well, certainly not people of a certain age or old movie buffs.

The duo made 10 movies together in the 1930s and ‘40s. Their unique style was graceful and complex, while looking effortless. Perhaps the clearest legacy today are Fred Astaire Dance Studios, such as this one near Richmond, VA.

Community Dancing

People in many Eastern European communities celebrate by dancing the hora. As there are no formal steps to learn, it is common for newcomers to be welcomed in, like these American servicemembers invited to join their Romanian colleagues.

Community dancing often requires no formal training, choreography, or practice. It is sometimes completely spontaneous, such as mosh pits at rock and heavy metal concerts. Though communities often dance together at celebrations, such as weddings or birthdays, the dancing is not necessarily part of the ceremony.

There are many benefits to dancing in a group. Dancing together creates the same sense of group identity as singing or chanting in unison. Participants experience a reduction in stress and a release of endorphins.

In some instances, a Master of Ceremonies calls out steps for the group to follow. A dancemaster sometimes calls Irish céilí steps at social dances. The Electric Slide and the Cha-Cha Slide, popular at American weddings, feature a singer directing the participants in a simple choreography.

Some dances, like the Macarena, permeate society so thoroughly that it seems everyone knows the choreography. Other dances, like Armenian group dances, are simple and repetitive enough for beginners to follow the steps of more experiences dancers.

At Drag On Ball, 2018

Within marginalized communities, dancing is often a way of finding community and demonstrating belonging. Ballroom culture (not to be confused with ballroom dancing) in the United States grew from the gatherings of LGBT+ African Americans in the late 19th and early 20th centuries.

Participants combine recreational, community dancing with dancing for artistic expression. Dancers vogue, strut, and catwalk in elaborate choreographies and costumes to represent their “houses” and found families. Depending on one’s definition of ceremony and ritual, participating in these events could also be seen as modern cultural rites for people who have been denied acceptance in the cultures they were born into.

Dance for Artistic Expression

Shosogatsu dance theater
Shosagatsu, a form of Japanese Kabuki, blurs the line between dance and narrative theater.

Many artists dance with the primary intent to express or communicate emotion, feelings, and/or ideas. These dancers, including ballet, tap, and modern dancers, often perform in a concert or theatrical setting to an audience. Using rhythmic, patterned, or improvised body movement, it’s one of the oldest art forms found in every culture around the world.

For many people, artistic expression conjures images of ballet. Ballet developed during the Italian Renaissance, before evolving in France and Russia into concert dancing meant for public performance. Ballet choreographers often use classical music.

Harlequin Floors—a purveyor of dance floors—lists what they call popular types of dance on their blog. Ballroom and ballet are perennial favorites, but dancing doesn’t stop there!

Contemporary Dance

Developed during the mid-twentieth century, contemporary dance is now one of the most popular and technical forms of dancing studied and performed professionally, especially in the US and Europe. Drawing on classical, modern and jazz dance styles, contemporary dance has evolved to incorporate many characteristics of a broader range of dance forms. Known for its emphasis on strong torso and legwork, contract and release, fall and recovery, and floor work, it often features unpredictable and disordered changes in speed and rhythm throughout a performance.

Alvin Ailey  Dance Theater
As a cultural ambassador, the Alvin Ailey American Dance Theater showcases a blend of American and traditional dance styles to audiences worldwide.

Hip Hop Dance

Hip hop dance
B-Boys and B-Girls combine hip hop dancing with acrobatics and rhythmic freezes, as demonstrated by this breakdancer in Union Square.

Hip-hop dancing refers to a range of street dances that developed in relation to hip hop music and culture. Hip-hop dancing dates back to the early 1970s in New York and California, evolving out of Funk and the development of break beat. Main styles of hip-hop dancing include Breaking, Locking and Popping, with derivative styles emerging out of these including Memphis Jookin’, Turfing, Jerkin’ and Krumping. These were often popularized and made mainstream after being featured in music videos of the time.

Today, hip-hop is performed in outdoor spaces, in dance studios, and competitively. Unlike many competitive dance styles, hip-hop is often improvisational with dance crews challenging each other to dance battles.

Jazz

Bollywood dance
Bollywood dancing (the style often showcased in Bollywood movies) feature a combination of Indian classical and jazz styles to create a uniquely recognizable form.

Jazz dancing has its roots in seventeenth-century African traditions. People brought to the Americas via the Atlantic slave trade continued dancing traditions in Brazil, the US, and elsewhere in North and South America. Known for its improvisational and dramatic body movements, jazz dancing grew in popularity in early twentieth-century jazz clubs.

Today, jazz dancing builds on African American vernacular dance styles that emerged along with jazz music in the United States. Swing, the Lindy Hop, the Shimmy, and the Charleston are popular kinds of jazz dances.

Tap

Zapateado dance
Zapateado dancers in Mexico combine Spanish and Indigenous South American dance elements with percussive shoe rhythms.

Tap dancing is a type of percussive dance characterized by the “tap” of shoes hitting the floor as the person dances. Tap dancers often wear metal “taps” on the heel and toe of a shoe to accentuate the sound. Frequently performed as part of musical theater, tap dancing often focuses on choreography and formations, with more than one tap dancer performing at once.

Tap dancing characterizes a range of dances including flamenco, rhythm, classical, Broadway, and postmodern tap.

Folk

Modern Samoan knife dancers often wrap their knives in burning cloth for extra pizzazz when performing Siva Afi, the traditional victory dance.

Folk dancing is celebrated worldwide. People of different cultures and religions use various forms of folk dance to portray emotions, stories, historical events or even aspects of daily life. Some well known types of folk dance include: Bharatanatyam (India), Samba (Brazil) and Hula (Hawaii). Some cultures may even perform multiple variations of folk dances, with countries like South Korea performing individual dances for key events such as victories in war, farming, music and religion. Folk dances are commonly held at public events, where people can participate regardless of whether they are professional or complete beginners. Such dances are often accompanied by traditional music to further enhance the cultural experience.

Irish

Irish dance
Irish dancing features jumps and leaps so high that dancers seem to have the temporary ability to ignore gravity.

Traditional Irish folk dance has been popular for hundreds of years amongst Irish people and other countries worldwide. The first recording of the rinnce fada (long dance) in Ireland was in 1689, when James II first came to Ireland. Popularized by shows such as Riverdance, Irish dancing is famously known for its fabulous display of footwork and dance formations. Most Irish dancing events are traditionally accompanied by signing and music. During festivals, dancers compete for trophies or medals to showcase their talents. While most people may recognize Irish dancing as being a group performance, there are many well-known forms of  solo Irish dances, such as the stepdance.

Modern

Igor Stravinsky’s “Rite of Spring” was such a departure from the formal ballets of the time that it caused a riot in the audience at its premiere in 1913.

Modern dance, a broad genre of dance, primarily arose from western countries such as the USA and Germany during the late 1900s. While most forms of dance feature set steps and formalized structure, the purpose of modern dance is to rely on the dancer’s interpretation of the music and feeling to guide movements. Modern dance was initially born out of dislike for the limitations of traditional dances such as ballet, which enforced rigid rules and techniques. Currently, modern dance is enjoyed across the world with participants having the ability to practice ballet-like dancing without having to place strict focus on their techniques or turnout. Instead, dancers can choose a piece of music and use unconventional movements to convey emotions or to tell a meaningful story.

Swing

Jitterbug dance
Jitterbug” was originally a derogatory term for a swing dancer, in the 1930s. As Big Band music and swing dancing became more popular, people came to use jitterbug interchangeably with swing dancing and Lindy Hop.

Swing is a variation of jazz dance. It developed during the 1920s to the 1940s as a response to the growing popularity of swing jazz music in America, encouraging faster, more rigorous movements. The Lindy Hop was the first form of swing, stemming from variations of the Charleston perfected by Black dancers in Harlem. Other popular forms of swing dance include the Lindy Charleston, the Jitterbug, and the Balboa, many of which are still performed today. Big Band music, whether live or on a recording, commonly accompanied swing dancing events.

Swing dance gained huge popularity in England thanks to the influence of American servicemen stationed there during World War II.

Pacu Jalur

And then there’s an annual dance event reported on in the Wall Street Journal (8/19/25). Where would you include this dance?

Pacu Jalur dance
Team Panglima Rimbo Piako

Kuantan Singingi, Indonesia holds an annual boat race, called Pacu Jalur, dating back to a 17th century celebration commemorating Queen Wilhelmina’s birthday during the Dutch rule. Today, it coincides with Indonesia’s Independence Day. Some 200 boats compete in a series of races, culminating in the main event, six-tenths of a mile long and lasting approximately two minutes. The hull of the jalur (boat) is usually 100 feet long, made from a single tree. Each boat is powered by 40 to 75 male rowers.

So where does the dancing come in? Each boat also has one dancer (anak joki)—always a boy for minimal weight and ability to balance while dancing on the bow, which is less than 1 foot wide! He wears traditional Malay outfits, cheers on the rowers, and performs 20-second dances to signal to bystanders when his boat is ahead. Each boat dancer has his own routine.

Today the most famous dancer is Dikha, whose dance—appearing effortlessly cool, smooth, and easy to copy—has been mimicked in celebratory dances by a football star, a soccer player, an F1 driver, as well as miscellaneous people at the office, on their cars, and inside Costco. Dikha’s dance mimics fanning air, flying, and shooting guns.

Bottom Line: “Dance”—for a plethora of reasons—has always been with us. Dare I predict it always will be? Enjoy!

A GLASS BY ANY OTHER SHAPE

The important question isn’t whether the glass is half empty or half full, but how it likely affects your drinking.

Wide-Rimmed or Narrow-Rimmed Glass?

A recent (July 2, 2025) article in The Wall Street Journal reported on research which indicates that people prefer wider-rimmed glasses to narrow ones, are willing to spend more on drinks in wider glasses, and are more likely to reorder drinks served in wider rimmed glasses. In addition, “Drinking from wider glasses even makes them feel better.” I dug into environmental factors that affect drinking.

Glass Size and Drinking Amount

It is well known that people eat and drink more when using larger crockery and glasses. One study found that when a bar in Cambridge served wine in larger glasses, the amount customers bought and drank increased by an average of 9 per cent.

Glass shape does not affect actual drink pours in the US but glass size does, at least in some cases. In this research, larger glass size/volume was associated with larger on-premise pours of straight shots and mixed drinks; thus, the large-glass drinks were found to contain more alcohol than drinks served in short, wide glasses. Drinks poured in short, wide glasses did not contain more alcohol than drinks poured in tall, thin glasses. (As an aside: some research shows that bars with mostly black patrons serve spirits drinks with more alcohol than bars with other patrons.)

Glass Shape and Drinking Amount

The shape of a glass can influence how much people drink, particularly with alcoholic beverages.

Studies have shown that people tend to drink faster from curved glasses compared to straight glasses. Perhaps this is because curved glasses make it harder to judge how much liquid remains, which can affect how quickly someone paces their drinking.

Tess Langfield, et. al., published reports of three laboratory experiments measuring consumption of soft drinks served in straight-sided vs. outward-sloped glasses.

  • In one study, although total drinking time was the same, participants drank more in the first half of the drinking session.
  • In a second study, during a bogus taste test, participants consumed less from straight-sided wine flutes than outward-sloped martini coupes.
  • In a third study, looking for facial expressions associated with decreased consumption, straight-sided glasses elicited more ‘pursed’ lip embouchures, which may partly explain reduced consumption from these glasses.

Using a combination of methods, including measures of amount drunk and physiological measures, the authors suggest that “switching to straight-sided glasses may be one intervention contributing to the many needed to reduce consumption of health-harming drinks.”

Glass Shape and Drinking Speed

Researchers at the University of Bristol report that people drink more quickly from curved glasses than straight ones.

They argue that the curvy glassware makes pacing yourself a much greater challenge.

Researchers filmed a group of 159 men and women drinking either soft drinks or beer. The glasses all contained around half a pint of liquid, but some of the glasses were straight while others were very curved (a “fluted” glass with a curvy taper to a narrow base).

There was no difference in the drinking time for soft drinks.

However, for the beer drinkers there was a big difference: it took around seven minutes for people drinking from a curved glass to polish off their half pint, but 11 minutes for those drinking from a straight glass. The report said: “Drinking time is slowed by almost 60% when an alcoholic beverage is presented in a straight glass compared with a curved glass.”

Could it be that curvy glasses made it harder to pace drinking because judging how much is in the glass is more difficult for a curved shape? When researchers showed drinkers pictures of partially-filled beer glasses and asked participants to say whether they were more or less than half full, they were more likely to get the answer wrong when assessing the amount of liquid in curved glasses. The lead researcher Dr Angela Attwood told the BBC, “They are unable to judge how quickly they are drinking so cannot pace themselves.” She also said altering the glasses used in pubs could “nudge” people to drink more healthily by “giving control back”.

In addition, other research found that people were more likely to pour extra alcohol into short, wide glasses than tall, narrow ones.

Glass Color

Then, too, the color of a glass can affect how much people drink. Studies have shown that the contrast between the glass and the color of the wine influences how much people pour. For example, when pouring white wine into a clear glass, participants poured 9% more than when pouring red wine, which had a greater contrast to the glass.

Don’t Trust Yourself!

Researchers at Cornell University found that, when wine drinkers were asked to pour what they considered a normal drink, they poured about 12 percent more wine into a wide glass than a standard one. The same was true when holding a glass while pouring compared with placing the glass on a table. “People have trouble assessing volumes,” said lead author Laura Smarandescu, and, “They tend to focus more on the vertical than the horizontal measures. That’s why people tend to drink less when they drink from a narrow glass, because they think they’re drinking more.”

Thus, research shows that several external factors affect how much people drink. Studies show that larger groups also often correspond with greater alcohol consumption, especially when social norms encourage drinking. I suspect most people are aware of this social effect. But the less obvious effects of size, shape, and color of one’s glass need your attention as well. And in all cases, measure standard drinks, not “free pours.”

Why? Because there’s a whole lot of drinking going on!

How Much Do We Drink?

According to the 2023 NSDUH report, of adults ages 18 and older, 67.1% reported that they drank in the past year. Of adults ages 18 and older, 51.6% reported that they drank in the past month. Among adults ages 18 and older, 6.3% reported heavy alcohol use in the past month. (The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA) defines heavy alcohol use for men as consuming five or more drinks on any day or 15 or more per week; for women, consuming four or more drinks on any day or eight or more per week.) And 23.5% of adults 18 and older reported binge drinking in the past month. (The NIAAA defines binge drinking according to blood alcohol levels that result when a typical adult male has five or more drinks, four or more drinks for a female, in about two hours.)

Approximately 178,000 deaths occur each year due to excessive drinking.

While bartenders and other purveyors of drinks—particularly alcoholic beverages—might claim differently, there is much evidence that people should consume less alcohol. And no amount is too little!

Bottom Line: Using the information above can reduce alcohol intake pretty painlessly, and discretely. No reason not to!

THINK AGAIN!

Doesn’t everyone have favorite brands? Speaking for myself, I’ve never really thought about the “parents” of brands I prefer or brands I avoid. But, lo and behold! It turns out that just a few companies control almost every major food and beverage brand worldwide.

Nestlé’s Brands

“N-e-s-t-l-e-s, Nestlé’s makes the very best chocolate” or so the old jingle goes. Nestlé is chocolate, right? Think again. The Nestlé company makes more than 2,000 brands, from global icons to local favorites. Among the ones I think most familiar to Americans:

  • Nescafe coffee
  • Coffee Mate
  • Nesquik
  • Starbucks Coffee at home
  • Purina pet food
  • Alpo
  • Beneful
  • Beggin’ dog treats
  • Fancy Feast
  • Tidy Cat
  • Nature’s Bounty nutritionals
  • Osteo-Biflex supplements
  • Puritan’s Pride supplements
  • Perrier
  • San Pellegrino
  • DiGiorno
  • Häagen-Dazs
  • Carnation
  • Cheerios
  • Trix
  • Gerber
  • Heinz
  • Maggi seasonings
  • Hot Pockets
  • Lean Cuisine
  • Stauffers
  • KitKat
  • Toll House

Mars Brands

The Nestlé company isn’t alone in product diversity. Mars, more than 100 years old and still family owned, for example, makes one think candy, but think again! Their products include many candies, of course, such as:

  • 3 Musketeers
  • American Heritage Chocolate
  • Dove
  • Dove Bar
  • Kudos
  • M-Azing
  • M&M’s
  • M&M’s World
  • Mars
  • Milky Way
  • My M&M’s
  • Snickers
  • Twix

Wrigley

The Wrigley Company brands (Mars being the parent company) include:

  • Altoids
  • Big Red
  • Doublemint
  • Eclipse
  • Eclipse Ice
  • Excel
  • Extra
  • Freedent
  • Juicy Fruit
  • Life Savers
  • Orbit
  • Skittles
  • Starburst
  • Wrigley’s
  • Wrigley’s Spearmint
  • Winterfresh

Mars Veterinary Division

Veterinary care and research are a wholly unexpected (by me) Mars endeavor, but maybe you thought pet products?

  • Cesar Canine Cuisine
  • Chappi
  • Crave
  • Iams Kit-e-Kat
  • Max
  • My Dog
  • Natura
  • Nutro Products
  • Pedigree
  • PrettyLitter
  • Temptations
  • Whiskas

Quaker Oats Brands

Quaker Oats registered the first trademark for a breakfast cereal in 1877, and since then, Quaker means oats, right? Well, yes. But it also means so much more now!

  • Old Fashioned & Quick Oats
  • Instant Oatmeal
  • Steel Cut Oats Instant
  • Oatmeal Cups
  • Gluten Free Oatmeal
  • Organic Oatmeal
  • Oat bran

But also

  • Granola (in a couple of varieties)
  • Grits (several versions)
  • Rice cakes
  • Rice crisps
  • Rice thins
  • Rice chips
  • Chewy Granola Bars
  • Variety Bundles
  • Protein Granola Bars
  • Oatmeal squares (brown sugar, cinnamon, & honey nut)
  • Barley
  • Corn Meal
  • Mixes
  • Oat Flour

Pepsi Brands

Although you might think of Quaker Oats Company as a stand-alone, think again! It was actually acquired by PepsiCo in 200l, primarily to gain control of Gatorade. So now one umbrella company also produces these, among others:

  • Pepsi
  • Lay’s
  • Mtn Dew
  • Doritos
  • Gatorade
  • Ruffles
  • Cheetos
  • Brisk
  • Propel
  • Pasta Roni
  • Sabra
  • Simply Baked
  • Rice A Roni
  • SunChips
  • Jack Link’s

So, what’s my point? There isn’t one, really, just my shock and awe that when it comes to commercial brands, earlobes are connected to elbows—i.e., bodies of products that seem to have no relation to each other.

Bottom Line: It seems multi-national companies are “all over the map” when it comes to diversifying product lines. And does it matter?

CATTITUDE

I recently came across a Wall Street Journal article by Natasha Khan titled “Inside Operation ‘Cattitude’: A Mission to Understand Cats” and who wouldn’t read that?

Being a Wall Street Journal story, of course it had a commercial slant. The essence of the article is that Mars (makers of Whiskas food and Temptations treats) is hoping to benefit from the rise in cat ownership in Gen Z households. They initiated an internal program called “Cattitude” to get their dog-loving employees on board with this new cat emphasis.

Buying Love with Treats

Their research revealed that, compared to cat-only owners, dog-only owners were 32% more likely to give daily treats.

Cats can’t taste sweet. Cats prefer the taste of umami and kokumi (as in tuna).

Products and cats connect through people. So Mars also investigated cat owners’ concerns, and cited their findings from typing “does my cat…” into a Google search: the top two results were “love me” and “know I love her.” I did the same search with DuckDuckGo and found that, among the top eight searches that came up, four questioned owner-cat love and one “does my cat hate me.”

So, my search confirmed the WSJ conclusion that cat owners often suffer from “feline insecurity.” The Mars solution is to produce foods and treats that cats like better, often with a new twist. For example, lickable spoons to be hand held “to create what the company calls an ‘enhanced bonding moment.’”

Giving Love, Getting Cattitude

So do cat owners know love when they see it?

Cats show their love in many quirky and subtle ways. According to a veterinarian, weird things cats do when they love you include slow blinking, kneading, bringing gifts, head bunting, wrapping their tails around you, and showing their belly. Other signs are purring, grooming, sitting next to you, following you around, and even mooning you as a sign of trust (YouTube.) Animal Wellness Magazine published an article explaining ten sometimes-confusing ways cats show affection for their humans.

And cats communicate lots more than affection through their behaviors. For example, chattering when they see prey indicates excitement or frustration, while rubbing their head on you (bunting) shows marking territory as well as affection. Kneading reflects contentment or stress relief, and sleeping in small spaces like boxes makes them feel safe. Eye contact, slow blinking, and tail wagging can signal trust, affection, or alertness. When they bring gifts, it’s a sign of sharing their hunting success and affection. Understanding these behaviors helps strengthen your bond with your cat.

Problematic Cattitude

Of course, not every feline oddity signals pleasant feelings. Worrisome cat behaviors may indicate health or stress problems.

  • Aggression
  • Litter box issues
  • Excessive scratching
  • Sudden changes in eating, drinking, or activity levels
  • House-soiling
  • Increased vocalization
  • Over-grooming

These signs should prompt a vet visit, as they could signal medical or behavioral issues (PetMD, MedVet, Brookside Vet).

Bottom Line: To make the most of cat ownership, “listen” to what your cat is telling you.

The Importance of Writing

Humans have been telling stories for millennia, and the invention of the written word has allowed us to preserve and share our stories. The importance of writing, any kind of writing, is difficult to overstate.

Lesser Importance of Writing for Money

According to an article by Alison Flood of The Guardian, a 2014 survey revealed that 54% of “traditionally-published” authors and nearly 80% of self-published authors earn less than $1,000 a year. In this same survey, only a minority of respondents listed making money as “extremely important”—around 20% of self-published writers and 25% of traditionally-published authors. Overall, Flood concluded, “Most authors write because they want to share something with the world or gain recognition of some sort.” Clearly, most writers aren’t in it to put food on the table.

If you aren’t writing to put food on the table, you’re writing to feed your soul.  And if you are writing to put food on the table, you are likely on a starvation diet!

Importance of Writing for Health

So why write? Because it’s good for you! A regular writing practice can benefit every aspect of your life. Many people have researched the importance of writing. I’ve combined below some of the findings discussed by Baihley Grandison (“11 Reasons Writing is Good for Your Health”, Writers Digest), Amanda L. Chan (“6 Unexpected Ways Writing Can Transform Your Health“, Huffington Post), and Jordan Rosenfeld (“Your Writing Practice is Calling | Why Do You Write?“, Medium).

Physical

  • Increase memory capacity
  • Healthier immune system
  • Reduce blood pressure
  • Improve lung function
  • Boost athletic performance
  • Writing what you’re thankful for could help you sleep better
  • Writing entertains you and others, and having fun is an important part of good health
  • It could help cancer patients think about their disease

My own experience with breast cancer and its treatment gave rise to three publications: a magical realism piece, “Beast and the Beauty”; a memoir titled “Hindsight” about altering my view of my mother’s invalidism; and a newspaper essay titled “Repair or Redecorate After Breast Cancer.”

Social

  • Learn to communicate better
  • Boost job prospects
  • Writing connects you with others through blogging, writing groups, live readings, and self-publishing outlets like Scribd and Smashwords
  • Through writing, we preserve stories and memories that may otherwise be lost

Mental

  • Expressing emotions through words may speed healing
  • It can form a fundamental part of your gratitude practice
  • Creativity has been proven to have positive effects on health, self-esteem, and vitality
  • Writing is good for your brain, creating a state similar to meditation
  • Writing hones your powers of observation, giving you a fuller experience of life
  • Writing hones your powers of concentration and attention, which is more fractured than ever thanks to technology and TV
  • Writing strengthens your imagination, and imagination is key to feeling hope and joy

Importance of Writing in My Life

From college until I left paid employment thirty years later—excepting the occasional lines of private poetry—I wrote only academic articles and research reports. When no longer employed, with no title and no built-in social network, I found myself lost. And depressed.

That’s when I started writing Dark Harbor.  Mysteries had been my favorite escapist reading, so of course I thought I could write one! I quickly realized I had no idea what I was doing and enrolled in a writing class at the VMFA Studio School. And here I am, four books and more than seventy short stories later, still writing.

It keeps my brain sharp. I learn new things when researching stories—everything from the effects of ketamine on humans to the price of gasoline in 1930 to the characteristics of Buff Orpington hens. I understand myself better in relation to my family. I meet interesting people. (I’ve never met a boring writer!) My journal helps me keep track of personal events, thoughts, and trivia. Publishing—even without much financial reward—is good for my self-esteem. And now that I am a writer, I no longer define myself by what I used to be—as in, “I’m a retired academic.”

Bottom Line: Write for your health, for your community, for your sanity, for your soul. Whatever the reason, write!

SWEET: WHEN TOO MUCH OF A GOOD THING IS A BAD THING

sweet cupcake

Sugar here,
Sugar there,
Sugar in your pasta sauce
Sugar from your pear.
Sugar on your cereal
And in your bakery treat.
The more sweetness you enjoy
The more you want to eat!

That’s a fact—and it’s bad news. The American Heart Association recommends limits on the amount of sugar you consume every day:

  • 25 grams (6 teaspoons) for women
  • 36 grams per day (9 teaspoons) for men

According to Anna Taylor, RD, LD, “The average American eats about 68 grams [~16.3 teaspoons] of sugar per day. That can add up to as much as 28 pounds of body fat per year.”

Too Sweet

But it’s even worse than getting fat. According to the AARP Bulletin, May/June 2025, eating a lot of sugar causes your body to age at seven times its natural rate. It ages you in several ways:

Magazine ad for GW sugar from 1930s
  • Raising dementia risk by increasing inflammation and weakening the blood-brain barrier.
  • Making your belly bigger, which indicates that your liver is storing fat, which can lead to higher cholesterol, insulin resistance, cardiovascular disease, and stroke.
  • Storing fat in the liver can also lead to nonalcoholic fatty liver disease.
  • Making it less likely you’ll eat enough healthful foods.
  • Increases risk of diabetes.
  • Worsens menopausal symptoms, including hot flashes.
  • Promotes tooth loss by damaging tooth enamel and creating gum inflammation.

Hidden Sugars

The Cleveland Clinic and the American Heart Association strongly support limiting table sugar. It’s high in calories and offers no nutritional benefit. Besides which, it’s hiding in some favorite foods:

  • Condiments such as ketchup and salad dressings
  • Pasta and barbecue sauces
  • Flavored yogurt, especially low-fat ones
  • Granola, instant oatmeal, and other breakfast cereals
  • Nut butters, both peanut butter and others
  • Drinks, which can contain more than three tablespoons of added sugar per serving

Check your food labels for hidden ingredients. Added sugars now must be specifically listed. Especially look for fructose, glucose, and sucrose.

The good news is that whiskey has no added sugar! The bad news is that it’s still empty calories and is otherwise hazardous to your health.

Naturally Sweet

The best way to sweeten food and drinks is with fresh or frozen fruit, which provide nutritional benefits such as fiber, vitamins, potassium, and antioxidants.

So, what about natural sugars? Things like raw honey, maple syrup, agave nectar, and raw sugar.

The good news is that some natural sweeteners provide a few more nutrients than table sugar. Raw honey and pure maple syrup both help feed gut flora, keeping your digestion on track.

Agave nectar, although natural, provides fewer nutrients than raw honey or pure maple syrup. It contains as many carbs and calories as table sugar. However, it tastes very sweet and so you might use less.

The bad news? They’re all still forms of sugar, high in calories. All natural sugar should be counted toward your daily sugar intake.

(Beware: Honey shouldn’t be given to infants under the age of 1 because of possible botulism bacteria spores.)

Artificially Sweet

So, just switch to artificial sweeteners? Problem solved? NO! Common artificial sweeteners, including saccharin (Sweet n’ Low®), aspartame (Equal®), and sucralose (Splenda®), come with concerns of their own.

According to The Cleveland Clinic, “Just as with sugar, artificial sweeteners may cause you to crave more sweet and sugary foods. Artificial sweeteners often include sugar alcohols. One sugar alcohol commonly used in artificial sweeteners, erythritol, has been linked to increased risk for heart attack and stroke.”

Some researchers suggest artificial sweeteners may be linked to a range of other health conditions , including having obesity, hypertension, Type 2 diabetes, heart disease, and more. However, those outcomes haven’t been validated across the board. Research is still ongoing.

Bottom Line: Roses are red.
Violets are blue.
Sugar is sweet
But BAD for you!