HOW WE COOK

Six editors (all men) passed on Peg Bracken’s manuscript, but ultimately, The I HATE TO COOK Book was published in 1960, and sold over 3 million copies. (For comparison: this was about the same as Craig Clayborne’s The New York Times Cookbook and twice as many as Julia Child’s Mastering the Art of French Cooking, both published in 1961.)

Clearly, Bracken’s humorous guide to spending less time on food prep struck a cord with home cooks.

My thesis is that the entire evolution of how we cook has trended in that direction: less time for food prep.

STOVES

My granny had a cast iron cook stove until the mid-1950s. She started by lighting wood in the fire box at one end of the stove body. Moving pots from burners closer to the firebox to those farther away adjusted the heat. She controlled oven temperature by determining how long she could hold her hand in the oven.

This was certainly old-fashioned, but she was poor, living on a hard-scrabble farm in the hills of eastern Kentucky. Saugus Ironworks manufactured the first cast-iron stove in Lynn, Massachusetts, in 1642. By the 18th century, manufacturers were making cast iron stoves in quantity in the United States. Their use became widespread in the early 19th century.

The first gas stoves were developed in the 1820s, in a factory established in England in 1836. These stoves offered adjustable and convenient cooking compared to solid fuels. A cook could turn the gas flame to the desired heat level immediately. Turning off the flame also immediately extinguishes the heat. However, the exposed gas flame posed more of a fire hazard than other stoves. They may also leak carbon monoxide, benzene, and formaldehyde, even when turned off.

Introduced in the early 20th century, electric stoves provided a safer and more efficient alternative to gas. Later in her life, my granny had an electric stove. She enjoyed the precision of temperature, especially for baking.

Induction cooktops use electromagnetic fields to heat pots and pans directly. Among stove bells and whistles: timers, preheat signal, convection baking, and broiling. Today, a home cook can use a Frigidaire 30″ Electric Range with Air Fry, with a convection oven and five cooking elements. My granny wouldn’t have to use her hand to determine the temperature!

Perhaps the biggest time-saver is not having to build a cooking fire.

REFRIGERATORS

The first appliance that sort of looked like a refrigerator was an icebox. Before iceboxes, people used ice houses and evaporative cooling methods like zeer pots to preserve food. (A zeer pot is a low-cost, evaporative cooling device made of two nested unglazed clay pots with wet sand between them, used to preserve food in hot, dry climates without electricity.)

The only icebox I ever saw personally was wooden, with metal fittings. The top compartment held the ice on a metal tray. The cool air descended to cool the food in the box below. An ice man delivered huge blocks of ice on a set schedule, and “ice cubes” were had by chipping off the block with an ice pick.

Electric refrigerators became common in households starting in the late 1920s and early 1930s. While Fred W. Wolf Jr. invented the first electric refrigerator for home use in 1913, widespread adoption began after General Electric introduced the “Monitor-Top” refrigerator in 1927, which was more affordable and practical for average homes. By the mid-1930s, electric refrigerators had largely replaced iceboxes in many American and European households, becoming a standard appliance in middle-class homes by the 1940s. These refrigerators were smaller than today. The cooling unit was at the top, and it had enough freezing space for a couple of ice cube trays.

Today one can choose refrigerators with freezers top, bottom, or side-by-side. Owners can adjust freezer and refrigerator temperatures separately. They can dispense filtered water and ice in various forms.

The biggest time-saving factor from refrigerators comes from the handy location in the kitchen, serving iced drinks, and the availability of frozen foods.

Before refrigerators, preservation techniques included salt curing, smoking, and drying.

SMALL APPLIANCES

Early toasters had pull-down doors on each side of the heating unit. Two pieces of bread—one per side—were toasted on the side facing the heating element. When the user opened the doors, the bread would flip, exposing the untoasted side. Closing the doors again started the process to toast the second side. These required monitoring, for there was no timer or automatic turn off.

Then there were pop-up toasters, toasting both sides at once, with heat controls for darkness, sometimes with four slots.

Today, a home cook can use toaster ovens, which I assume need no description, or the toast function in air fryers. They toast faster, take many slices, and turn off automatically.

Mixing stuff up started with a fork or spoon, evolved to a whisk which, with patience, can actually whip cream or egg whites into soft peaks. Hand-held egg beaters (1850s) made that process much faster, and hand-held electric mixers were/are even faster. Counter-top mixers (such as KitchenAid) operate without the cook holding the mixing element, and can even knead bread.

Blenders were introduced in 1922 and food processors in 1946, though their use in home kitchens took time to catch on. Although meat grinders (1840s) streamlined the mincing process, food processors in particular relieved the home cook of clamping a meat grinder to the counter or tabletop and hand grinding.

Making coffee has gone from boiling grounds in a pot of water and waiting for the grounds to settle to using a percolator, with a basket holding grounds at the top where boiling water pours through them. Today coffee makers typically use filters for the grounds and collect the coffee in a carafe. Fancy options can keep it hot, turn off automatically, or even turn on or off at a pre-selected time.

Although some people prefer to grind their own coffee beans, pre-ground beans are readily available.

And now one can make a single cup of coffee in a device such as Keurig using individually chosen pods, which can be flavored. And let’s not forget instant coffee, just add water, though coffee lovers usually prefer not to.

It is possible to make tea the same way, but do keep a carafe dedicated to tea to avoid contamination by lingering coffee flavors. Modern tea aficionados can use a variety of automatic devices, with magnetic tea baskets, calibrated brewing temperatures, or warming surfaces. The quick and easy alternative: teabag and microwaved water.

The mighty microwave was invented in 1945 by Percy Spencer, an engineer with the Raytheon Company. Microwaves became common in households during the 1970s and 1980s as prices fell and their use spread globally. And as everybody must know, it cooks faster than stovetops or ovens.

COOKWARE

Cast iron cookware was first introduced around 220 CE in China during the Han Dynasty. During the Medieval period (500 – 1500 ) cast iron cookware first appeared in Europe, and became essential for slow-cooking stews and soups. It was popular from the late 19th century through the mid-20th century, peaking in the first half of the 20th century before declining in the 1960s and 1970s.

I have cast iron skillets and a griddle from a great-grandmother, both grandmothers, and my mother! I have added a chicken fryer and stew pot to my inherited collection. Cast iron is great for heat retention, durability, ability to maintain high temperatures for long durations, and non-stick potential. But it is heavy!

Copper pots and pans became popular among European chefs for their even heat distribution. Copper cookware became popular as a status symbol among Europe’s wealthy elite in the 18th century and remained prominent through the 19th century.

The invention of Teflon-coated pans (1960s) made cooking and cleaning easier.

Pressure cookers were an early effort to shorten cooking times. The basic concept was invented in 1679! The modern pressure cooker, as we know it today, became widely popular in the mid-20th century with brands like Presto.

And then slow cookers were introduced. They gained popularity in the U.S. during the 1970s, with sales peaking around this time. This countertop electrical cooking appliance simmers food at a lower temperature than other cooking methods. Dishes like pot roasts and stews can cook for many hours without requiring attendance, unlike with a boiling method. Its primary advantage is allowing the cook to complete prep according to their own convenience and preference.

CONVENIENCE FOODS

I contend that the most basic convenience foods are frozen and canned products. Many canned foods are “heat and serve,” or even ready to eat. Grocery stores carry a gazillion (by actual count) prepared foods, from cupcakes and bread to quiche and potato salad, already peeled carrots, cut melon and pineapple, etc., etc., etc.

One can order prepared dishes—or meals—from restaurants and have them delivered to the door. And for those who want a fresh, homemade meal, there are services such as HelloFresh: the ordered meal ingredients come proportioned and ready to cook, with all seasonings, and recipes for the preparation.

And now one can use a service such as Tovala, a meal delivery service paired with a smart oven that cooks chef-crafted, fresh meals in under 20 minutes using QR code scanning or pre-programmed cycles.

WE’VE COME A LONG WAY, BABY

Before 3000 BCE, the earliest food prep method, using open flames to roast meat and vegetables on sticks or in pits, required constant attention.

People roasted large animals on spits turned by hand or animal tread mills, a common method in Medieval feasts.

Around 10,000 BCE, humans began using clay pots for boiling and stewing, marking a shift to more controlled heat and less constant attention.

Archaeological research dates the use of earthen ovens for underground cooking to approximately 10,000 years ago. Earth ovens (e.g., Polynesian umu or Native American pit baking) involved cooking food in underground pits with heated stones. The Egyptians used early ovens (around 2500 BCE) for baking bread, a staple of their diet.

The Romans created early versions of stoves. These stoves were brick or iron structures, knee-high, fired by wood or charcoal through a front hole, with pots placed over or hung into holes at the top.

The earliest fireplaces (as we think of them today) were flat to the floor, used for both heating and cooking. The Romans introduced raised hearths, making cooking more convenient (and heating less dirty).

Cast iron “arms” (chimney cranes) were built into fireplace walls, suspending cooking pots over flames, allowing for better heat control, and swinging out to fill or serve. Many included spits for roasting chunks of meat and small animals such as rabbits or chickens.

AND HERE WE ARE

A recent article in The Wall Street Journal (9/22/26) reported, “When 4:00 p.m. rolls around on any given day, about 80% of Americans still don’t know what they will have for dinner.” Many families turn to ready-to-cook food and meal delivery services, or grazing on things like cheese and crackers, nuts, etc.

This isn’t a new phenomenon. The I Hate to Housekeep Book (Peg Bracken, 1962) has a chapter titled “Dinner Will Be Ready As Soon As I Decide What We’re Having.” (It demonstrates a touching reliance on eggs.)

According to the US Labor Department, women spend an average of 55 minutes per day on food preparation AND cleanup; men, 31 minutes.

Bottom Line: Peg Bracken got it right: apparently, most people hate to cook.

ON FEATHERS: WRITING, WARMTH, SALES AND SEX

I thought I knew feathers. Researching this blog revealed the vastness of my ignorance!

Feathers have a variety of uses across history, cultures, and industries. Here are some of the most common and notable uses:

Writing

Historically, writers used feathers (especially from geese or swans) to make quill pens before the invention of the metal nib pen.

Quill pens were used from around the 6th century until the 19th century, evolving as a primary writing tool during the Middle Ages and remaining dominant until mass-produced dip pens emerged around 1820.

Warmth

One princess enjoyed feather ticks so much that she slept on a pile of 40 of them—and still felt the pea on the bottom!

Today, people use down feathers from ducks or geese in jackets, sleeping bags, and blankets for their excellent insulation properties.

The use of feathers for bedding dates back centuries, providing insulation and comfort in featherbeds

As a child, I slept with feather ticks at my granny’s house. These were made primarily from chicken feathers, some duck, with the nibs cut off.

Feather ticks were common in historical bedding, often placed over a harder mattress to make it more comfortable. Also called a featherbed or tick, it’s a linen or cotton bag filled with feathery down and sewn shut, traditionally used as a mattress topper or blanket to add softness and warmth to a bed. Regarding the origin of the term “tick,” it refers to the fabric covering or bag that holds the feathers, not the insect.

Feather-filled pillows and comforters are popular for their softness and insulation.

Feather Market

There is money to be made in feathers! Recent market figures confirm that the global market in feather products is significant and expecting steady annual growth.

Down jackets: $28.49 billion in 2025

Sleeping bags: $2.67 billion in 2025

Down bedding: $3 billion in 2025

Decorative Use

Fashion designers often use feathers in hats, boas, and capes for fashion.

Emperor Pedro II of Brazil wearing a wide collar of orange toucan feathers

Costume designers use them for Carnival and performance costumes (e.g., burlesque, theater, and dance). Feathered fans are traditional and iconic in fan dancing (especially in styles like burlesque or Hawaiian hula).

Some designers add feathers to clothing, bags, and shoes for a unique, luxurious, or exotic aesthetic.

Many traditional cultural attires include feathery adornments, such as Native American headdresses, Hawaiian chieftain capes, and Siberian Sakha winter clothing.

Home Decor

Decorators use feathers in wreaths, garlands, centerpieces, and wall art.

I made this bouquet of feathers in crab tails!

DYI Crafts and Art

Jewelry (e.g., earrings, necklaces)
Scrapbooking and card-making
Dreamcatchers and other handmade decor
Used in paintings, sculptures, and mixed-media art projects

Spiritual and Healing Practices

In some Indigenous traditions, participants use feathers to waft smoke from burning herbs (like sage or cedar) during smudging ceremonies.

Some believe a feather can to help direct or cleanse energy during rituals.

Symbolism and Ceremonies

Feathers often represent honor, freedom, and spirituality in many cultures.

Eagle feathers are sacred and used in ceremonies, rituals, and as symbols of honor in many Native American traditions. The laws around possessing an eagle feather are complicated and vary from state to state.

In ancient Egypt, feathers symbolized truth and justice (e.g., the feather of Ma’at).

Feathers are sometimes used as symbols of achievement, such as in military or scout badges.

Military Uses

Historically, fletchers used feathers to stabilize arrows in flight, for battle, hunting, and archery demonstrations.

Feathers have adorned military uniforms in some historical periods (e.g., cavalry helmets or officer hats). Particularly on headgear, these feather adornments aid in battlefield identification.

Several Native America tribes present feathers to members for particularly courageous actions, such as military feats. These feather awards often form part of traditional regalia, including war bonnets and hair ornaments.

Musical Instruments

Artisans sometimes use feathers to decorate instruments like guitars, violins, ‘uli’uli, or drums for aesthetic purposes.

In some cultures, musicians have used feathers to create sounds or as part of musical instruments for millenia. Appalachian dulcimer players today sometimes use a feather quill to pluck the strings.

Sports

Fishermen use feathers to create artificial flies for fly fishing, mimicking the appearance of insects or baitfish.

The word “shuttlecock” comes from the projectile’s resemblance to a rooster’s tail. A traditional shuttlecock is composed of feathers secured in a cork wrapped in thin leather. Badminton is the most well-known sport that uses shuttlecocks. Players hit the shuttlecock back and forth over a net using rackets.

Battledore is an ancient game similar to badminton, where players use a small paddle (battledore) to keep a shuttlecock in the air for as long as possible. Less structured than badminton, battledore is often played casually or by children.

Hanetsuki is a traditional Japanese game similar to battledore and shuttlecock. Players use wooden
paddles to hit a shuttlecock and keep it airborne.

Home and Garden

Feather dusters are quite handy, traditionally used for cleaning delicate surfaces like lampshades, blinds, and furniture due to their softness and ability to trap dust.

Gardeners and farmers sometimes use feathers (especially owl feathers) in gardens or farms to deter pests like birds or rodents.

Environmental and Scientific Uses

Feathers are studied in biology and ecology to understand bird behavior, migration, and health.

Researchers use feathers in tracking and monitoring bird populations (e.g., banding feathers with identification tags).

Industrial Uses

Economists estimate that feathers yield a profit of about 50 cents per pound in industry, significantly higher than the profit from chicken meat—or so I read!

A byproduct of poultry processing, feather meal is used as a slow-release fertilizer in agriculture due to its high nitrogen content.

Research is ongoing into using feathers (keratin) to create sustainable materials like bioplastics or textiles.

Toys with attached feathers can stimulate playful cats or train hunting dogs.

Feathers provide extra comfort in pet nests or the filling of beds.

Ethical and Sustainable Considerations

Many feathers used today are byproducts of the food industry (e.g., from ducks or chickens raised for meat or eggs).

Feathers harvested specifically for use in fashion or crafts raise ethical concerns about animal welfare. Many people use synthetic feathers (made from polyester or other materials) as cruelty-free alternatives in fashion and decor.

And Because Sex Was Mentioned in the Title

Feathers have a long history of being used in sensual and sexual contexts, often for their tactile, visual, and psychological appeal, often used as part of foreplay, roleplay, or sensory exploration.

You can look it up!

Minneapolis hosts a city-wide pillow fight every year, perhaps the least erotic feathery orgy around!

Feathers can provide light, teasing touches to heighten sensitivity and arousal.

They are popular in sensory deprivation or tease-and-denial play. People might use feathers as part of bondage or restraint play, to enhance the experience of being controlled or immobilized. Partners may use feathers to explore each other’s bodies in new ways, adding variety to foreplay or massage.

Roleplay scenarios might feature feathers, such as feather dusters in domestic servant or maid fantasies.

Tantric or spiritual intimacy practices, where people use touch to deepen connection and mindfulness, may incorporate feathers.

In some cases, people use feathers in temperature play, either by chilling them or warming them.

Many people create homemade feather wands or ticklers by attaching feathers to handles or using them in combination with other tools like floggers or crops.

Issues to Consider

Ensure feathers are clean and free of allergens, especially if shared between partners or used in sensitive areas.

Always discuss boundaries and comfort levels beforehand, especially when introducing new sensations or tools.

Use soft, high-quality feathers to avoid irritation or discomfort.

Never use feathers in the eyes, ears, or throat, as they can cause injury.

Bottom Line: Feathers are useful as well as ornamental, valued for both profit and pleasure.

YOU’RE EATING WHAT?

If you are considering eating cockroaches, don’t microwave them! They are so fatty that they explode in the microwave. You just don’t want the mess.

Which is not to say you shouldn’t eat them. According to the EntoMove Project, the cockroach nutritional profile, per mg/100g, (3.53 oz) is 19 g protein, 10 g fat, calcium 38, iron14, zinc 32, potassium 224, niacin 44, magnesium 50, B12 237 mcg.

You might be surprised to learn that the U.S. is listed among countries where cockroaches are either a common or semi-common ingredient in the country’s cuisine or they are offered in at least some restaurants, possibly as a novelty. Other countries include China, Mexico, Japan, and Thailand. (For the Love of Chocolate in Carytown, VA offers scorpion lollipops and ant candy!)

Current research on this topic is non-comprehensive. It is likely that insects are a regular part of the diet in countries not listed above particularly in South America, Africa, and southern Asia. Many traditional cuisines are often more accepting of the idea of insects as a protein source.

And it isn’t just cockroaches. In many cultures around the world, insects are a traditional and nutritious part of the diet. This practice, called entomophagy, is common in regions where insects are abundant, sustainable, and rich in protein, healthy fats, vitamins, and minerals. Here are some cultures and regions where eating bugs is more common.

Latin America

chapulines insects
Chapulines in Mexico

Mexico: Insects like chapulines (grasshoppers), escamoles (ant larvae), and gusanos de maguey (maguey worm) are popular, especially in Oaxaca and central Mexico. Cooks often toast chapulines with chili and lime and serve them as snacks or added to tacos.

Colombia: Hormigas culonas (big-bottomed ants) are a delicacy, particularly in Santander. People often toast them to eat as a crunchy snack.

Brazil: In the Amazon, indigenous communities eat tucum (palm weevil larvae) and suri (palm beetle larvae).

Southeast Asia

Cambodian fried tarantula insects
Cambodian fried tarantulas

Thailand: In markets and street food stalls, you can find insects like crickets, silkworm pupae, water beetles, and bamboo worms. They are often fried or roasted and seasoned with spices.

Laos: Khao tom mat (ant egg soup) and deep-fried insects are common snacks.

Vietnam: Cricket and silkworm dishes are popular, often stir-fried or used in soups.

Cambodia: Fried tarantulas and water beetles often serve as snacks.

Myanmar: Many cooks include beetle larvae and ants in salads or soups.

Africa

South Africa: The mopane worm (a caterpillar) is dried or canned and eaten as a protein-rich food.

Zimbabwe and Zambia: Madora (larvae of the mopane moth) are a traditional food source.

Congo: Roasted or boiled palm weevil larvae and termites are a popular ingredient and snack.

Palm weevil larva farmer, displaying their stock

Nigeria: In some regions, rising livestock feed prices are leading people to raise palm weevil larvae and grasshopper as alternatives to chickens and cattle.

Australia and Oceania

Indigenous Australians: Traditionally ate honey ants, witchetty grubs (larvae of cossid moths), and bardi grubs (larvae of palm weevils). People most often eat these raw or only lightly cooked.

Dora Napaljarri Kitson, hunting for Witchetty grubs (Ed Gold)

Papua New Guinea: Sago grubs (larvae of the sago palm weevil) are a delicacy, often eaten raw or roasted.

East Asia

Inago and hachinoko

China: In many provinces, including Yunnan and Guangxi, people eat insects like silkworm pupae, cricket, bee larvae, and water beetles. Cooks often stir-fry them or use them in soups.

Japan: Inago (grasshoppers) and hachinoko (bee larvae) are traditional foods, often boiled in soy sauce.

South Korea: Beondegi (silkworm pupae) is a popular street food, steamed or boiled and seasoned with spices.

Middle East

Oman and Yemen: During swarms, locusts and desert locusts make a very handy addition to many dishes, often roasted or fried.

Why Do These Cultures Eat Bugs?

Fried insect vendor in Thailand

Nutritional Benefits: Insects are high in protein, healthy fats, fiber, vitamins (like B12), and minerals (like iron and zinc).

Sustainability: Insects require far less land, water, and feed compared to traditional livestock, making them an eco-friendly protein source.

Cultural Tradition: In many regions, eating insects is a long-standing practice tied to local ecosystems and food security.

Availability: Insects are often abundant in tropical and subtropical regions, making them a reliable food source.

In many cultures, insects are recognized/consumed for their medicinal as well as nutritional properties.

Bottom Line: Are you open to exotic and beneficial foods?

UBIQUITOUS BLOOD

Blood is so important that it has escaped the confines of the body and pops up everywhere, in symbolism, metaphors, and superstitions.

Fallacies About Blood

In many ancient cultures, where blood was seen as the essence of life—sacrificing blood (animal or human)—was believed to sustain the gods, the land, or the community. In ancient paganism, such sacrifices were offered to gods like Moloch, Aztec deities, or the Greek Fates to ensure fertility, harvests, or protection.

It was once believed that blood was the same as life, and as such, drinking blood was the equivalent of a transfusion today.

In other cultures, the heart was thought to be the blood-fountain and the core of personality, so this drinking of blood was regarded as soul transference.

Ma’at weighing the heart of the deceased against the Feather of Truth, determining a soul’s guilt or innocence in the Egyptian Book of the Dead

Cannibalism, as a tribal rite, was based on a similar belief, that the blood of another was his life and soul. The practice of drinking the blood of the bravest foes was to acquire their courage, cunning, and other distinctive traits.

Royalty and the super rich literally had blue blood. This was based on the fact that those who did not labor in the sun, and therefore weren’t tan, had veins that showed more prominently blue. (Indeed, some creatures have blue blood—e.g., horseshoe crabs—but humans aren’t among them.) Historically, Royal Blood meant that royalty were of divine or pure lineage, untouched by commoners. Bloodlines determined inheritance, legitimacy, and power.

Transfusion bag

People of different races have different blood, and transfusions across ethnic groups are dangerous if not deadly.

In Japan, many people use blood type as a personality predictor, similar to how some Americans ascribe to star signs or Vietnamese believe in a birth year cycle.

A baby gets blood from the mother. In fact, the fetus creates its own blood entirely, in utero.

Bloodletting

Bloodletting in the 1860s

As far back as the Ancient Egyptians, doctors have attempted to treat patients by adjusting fluids inside the body. In particular, medical theories held that sweating and bloodletting were effective treatments for everything from headaches to gout. Hippocrates believed menstruation was a spontaneous form of bloodletting. Talmudic, Ayurvedic, Chinese, and Islamic medical texts all contain detailed instructions of the practice.

Galen created very specific charts of the best locations to cut or place leeches to achieve specific health benefits, encouraging patients to take their “cure” into their own hands! Cutting the vein in the right hand might cure liver problems, while cutting the vein in the left hand could cure spleen trouble.

Diagram of where to bleed for specific health concerns

He also believed that the heart created blood and sent it to the organs and extremities, where it was used up. Having too much would cause it to stagnate, leading to illness. For centuries, doctors throughout Europe and the Middle East thought it purged toxins, balanced bodily chemistry, and boosted immunity.

Bloodletting remained a common medical practice through the 19th Century. Textbooks from 1923 still recommended treating patients with strategic bleeding.

It still shows up in our language. “Bloodletting” is now a euphemism for simmering tensions in a community erupting into violence.

Bloody Language

A subject so entwined with human history and sensibilities is bound to show up in our language.

Blood in Metaphors

Blood feud: People of one bloodline/clan are born enemies of another.

In cold blood: To do something cruel or violent deliberately and without emotion.

Hematohidrosis, a rare medical condition, causes a patient to sweat actual blood.

Blood, sweat, and tears: A lot of effort and hard work, often involving suffering.

Blood runs cold: To feel a sudden shock or horror.

Flesh and blood: Someone’s family or relatives; also used to describe human limitations or weaknesses.

Blood boils: To become extremely angry.

Bad blood: Strong feelings of hatred or anger between people.

New blood: New people joining a group or organization, bringing fresh ideas.

Roman gladiators from a Third Century mosaic

Blood sport: A sport involving the hunting or killing of animals, or a violent competition.

Blood money: Money earned through dishonest or violent means; also refers to money paid to a killer as compensation for a murder.

Bloodcurdling: Extremely frightening or shocking.

Blood brother: A very close friend; historically, mingling a few drops of blood from two people in a cup of wine and both drinking it sealed the bond. More recently, two people nick their thumbs or wrist veins and press them together to seal the bond. (“Brothers” could also be women, though this was much less common.)

Lady Macbeth by Gabriel von Max

Blood on one’s hands (e.g., Lady Macbeth’s famous line, “Out, damned spot!”) symbolizes moral stain or unresolved guilt.

Bloodstained: Covered or marked with blood, often implying violence or guilt.

In one’s blood: innate, as of a skill or quality. The same as “XXX runs in the family.”

Blood is thicker than water: Family relationships are stronger than other relationships.

In some initiation rites (e.g., fraternities, secret societies, or rites of passage), blood may symbolize commitment, loyalty, or rebirth into a new social or spiritual state.

Bloody Proverbs

  • Blood is inherited and virtue is acquired.
  • None so keen at the hunting of wolves as the dog with wolf blood.
  • Who grudges his blood to a blade had better earn his living behind the plow.
  • You cannot get blood from a stone/turnip
  • Good blood will never lie.
  • Men’s skins have many colors, but human blood is always red.
  • Like blood, like means, and like age, make the happiest marriage.
  • Marrying in the blood is never good.
  • Noble and common blood is of the same color.
  • If blood is spilt on you before breakfast, you will shed blood before nightfall.

The human body contains about 5 liters (1.3 gallons) of blood, which circulates through the body 3 times every minute on average! It transports oxygen, nutrients, and hormones, fights infections, regulates body temperature, and removes waste products.

Bottom Line: Blood is so important that it’s everywhere!

ISMS: THEY’RE EVERYWHERE

We’re all aware, at some level, of racism and sexism. Everyone lucky enough to live to be old will probably become aware of ageism. Many fewer are attuned to ableism. The world wasn’t built for people with disabilities, and because of that, the world we live in is inherently “ableist.”

Ableism 101 by Ashley Eisenmenger

-Isms and Stereotyping

All -isms are based on stereotypes. Stereotyping is when, based on one characteristic, we assume a whole constellation of characteristics, traits, abilities, or behaviors. While it can sometimes feel like a mental shortcut to quickly understand the world, it often leads to inaccuracies, misunderstandings, and unfair judgments.

Effects of Stereotyping

THE American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) provides legal assistance for people seeking civil liberties protections.

Bias and Prejudice: Stereotypes can reinforce harmful biases, leading to discrimination or exclusion.
Overgeneralization: It ignoring individual differences.
Self-Fulfilling Prophecies: People may unconsciously act in ways that confirm a stereotype, perpetuating the cycle.
Loss of Individuality: It reduces people to a single label, ignoring their unique identities, experiences, and complexities.

Common Areas Where Stereotyping Occurs

The Southern Poverty Law Center (SPLC) is a legal advocacy organization promoting civil rights in the US.

Gender: Assuming women are “naturally” better at caregiving or men are “naturally” better at leadership.
Race/Ethnicity: Linking certain behaviors or traits to an entire racial or ethnic group.
Professions: Believing all engineers are socially awkward or all artists are “starving.”
Age: Assuming older adults are “out of touch” or teenagers are “irresponsible.”
Cultures: Assuming everyone from a specific country behaves the same way.

Ableism

Returning to focus on ableism, consider the following examples from the source cited above:

Presenting a disability as either tragic or inspirational in news stories, movies, and other popular forms of media

Choosing an inaccessible venue for a meeting or event, thus excluding some participants

Using someone else’s mobility device as a hand or foot rest

Casting a non-disabled actor to play a disabled character in a play, movie, TV show, or commercial

Making a movie that doesn’t have audio description or closed captioning

Using the accessible bathroom stall when you are able to use the non-accessible stall without pain or risk of injury

Wearing scented products in a scent-free environment

Talking to a person with a disability like they are a child, talking about them instead of directly to them, or speaking for them

Asking invasive questions about the medical history or personal life of someone with a disability

Assuming people have to have a visible disability to actually be disabled

Questioning if someone is ‘actually’ disabled, or ‘how much’ they are disabled

Asking, “How did you become disabled?”

All -Isms are Based on Stereotyping

—Isms take many blatant forms. Depending on the specific —ism, these can include:

The Human Rights Campaign is the largest LGBTQ advocacy group in the US, lobbying for protecting and expanding rights.
  • Lack of compliance with laws like the ADA, non discrimination in housing, etc.
  • Segregating students into separate schools or classes
  • Not questioning existing discriminatory standards in medicine, banking, policing, etc.
  • The use of restraint or seclusion as a means of controlling students with disabilities
  • Institutionalizing adults and children with disabilities
  • Failing to incorporate accessibility into building design plans. This applies to disabilities but also such things as gender-neutral bathrooms.
  • Buildings without braille on signs, elevator buttons, etc.
  • Selectively enforcing dress codes
  • Restricting workplace benefits, such as family leave or health insurance, to opposite-sex couples
  • Creating inaccessible websites
  • Entrenching existing prejudices into computer algorithms and coding
  • The assumption that people with disabilities want or need to be ‘fixed’
  • Requiring hairstyles that are difficult or impossible to maintain with certain hair textures
  • Using disability as a punchline, or mocking people with disabilities
  • Conducting research without consideration of differences based on gender, race, abilities, etc. This is especially important in medical research and the creation of public policy.
  • The lynchings of Blacks in earlier decades and eugenics movement of the early 1900s
  • Disproportionate number of guilty verdicts and harsher sentences based on race or ethnicity.
  • The mass murder of disabled people in Nazi Germany
  • Hiring preferences based on the assumption that women will become pregnant and leave the workforce
  • Wage gaps based on sex, race, ethnicity
“Die-Ins” during Black Lives Matter protests drew attention to racialized police violence in the US.

Micro-Aggressions and “Isms”

Micro-aggressions are everyday verbal or behavioral expressions that communicate a negative slight or insult in relation to someone’s gender identity, race, sex, disability, etc. It seems to me that non-conscious put downs of -isms are more common—and more socially acceptable—than others these days.

  • “That’s so lame.”
  • Dumb blonde jokes.
  • “That’s so retarded.”
  • “That guy is crazy.”
  • “You’re so brave to wear that!”
  • “You’re acting so bi-polar today.”
  • Schools defaulting to communicate with a female parent, regardless of a family’s arrangements.
  • “Should you really be eating that?”
  • “Must be that time of the month.”
  • “You’re so gay.”
  • “Are you off your meds?”
  • “It’s like the blind leading the blind.”
  • “It’s fine to be gay, but why do they have to shove it in my face?”
  • “My ideas fell on deaf ears.”
  • Putting hands on someone to guide them to where you want them.
  • “You throw like a girl.”
  • “You look great for your age!”
  • “But which one of you is the woman?”
  • “That’s so psycho.”
  • “I’m super OCD about how I clean my apartment.”
  • Offering to help old people. Sometimes this is appreciated, putting a bag in the overhead bin, for example. But often it comes across as assuming incompetence.
  • “You’re so well-spoken!”
  • “A real man would…”
  • “I’ll pray for you?”
  • Addressing an elderly person as young man or young lady.
  • “Of course he’s paid more; he has a family to support!”
  • “I don’t even think of you as disabled/black/a woman.”
  • “I’m not saying she deserved it, but did you see what she was wearing?”
  • “I love old people; they’re so adorable!”
  • “This sort of thing comes naturally to your people, right?”
  • “Big boys don’t cry.”
  • Touching someone’s hair.
  • “You’re such a spaz.”
  • Witnessing or overhearing any of the above without speaking up.

How to Avoid Stereotyping

The Stonewall Riots kicked off the gay liberation movement in the US, eventually leading to major legal protections and growing social acceptance of LGBTQ+ people.

Challenge Assumptions: Ask yourself why you hold a particular belief about a group.
Seek Diverse Perspectives: Engage with people from different backgrounds to broaden your understanding.
Focus on Individuality: Recognize that everyone is unique and shouldn’t be reduced to a stereotype.
Educate Yourself: Learn about the lived experiences of others rather than relying on stereotypes.
Practice Empathy: Put yourself in someone else’s shoes to understand their perspective.

Bottom Line: -Isms and stereotyping can harm mental health, self-esteem, and social cohesion. Stereotyping can often leads to systemic -isms like racism, sexism, ageism, and other forms of discrimination. Breaking free from stereotypes is essential for creating a fairer, more inclusive world.

APRIL BRINGS SHOWERS; MAY BRINGS…

Celebrations, holidays, and observances! Truly, no one could possibly honor all the special days in May.

Celebratory Days in May

First there are the dailies. Only 31 days in the month, yet there are 486 (!) daily holidays and observances. If you are reading this blog the day it is posted (May 12), 224 of these opportunities have already passed you by for 2026. You are probably aware of Cinco de Mayo and Mother’s Day, maybe even celebrated them. But (probably) missed opportunities include

Beltane Fire on Uisneach Hill in Ireland

Beltane (or Là Bealltainn or Boaltinn or Boaldyn)
Global Love Day
Tuba Day
World Beer Pong Day AND World Naked Gardening Day, both on May 2
Paranormal Day
National Orange Juice Day
National Silence the Shame Day
Great American Grump Out Day
World Asthma Day
National Deaf Interpreter Day
Make a Book Day (Thursday of National Family Reading Week)
World Donkey Day
Mother Ocean Day

And soooo many more. Of course, there’s always next year. It pays to plan ahead (perhaps plant something soft in anticipation of Naked Gardening Day 2027).

All isn’t lost, though. There are 10 opportunities to celebrate just today (May 12) including National Nutty Fudge Day and Limerick Day. My long-time favorite limerick was composed at St Lawrence University during a graduation ceremony—every year there was some faculty challenge during that event—by a member of the Physics Department, Peter Oesper.

Peter Oesper

Try your hand at a limerick and share?

Celebratory Weeks in May

Of curse weekly celebrations and observances abound in May—130, in fact. A couple of things to note about the weekly listings: 1) several of the earliest ones actually started in April; and 2) some are not a full week, just too long to be a daily.

Here are some examples of celebrations for people who don’t want to feel pushed by a one-day limit. Of course—for you, dear reader—some must await next year. These include the 27 weekly observances that are always the first full week in May. And among others

How could you not be kind to this smiling face?

Reading is Fun Week and National Children’s Book Week
Be Kind to Animals Week and National Pet Week
National Anxiety and Depression Awareness Week
National Children’s Mental Health Week
International Clitoris Awareness Week (which should be every week?)
National Wildflower Week
National Raisin Week
Root Canal Appreciation Week (Really? Really.)

But if you jump on it today, you can still celebrate worthy observances: National Nurses Week, and UN Road Safety Week through today; National Hug Holiday Week and World Cocktail Week today and tomorrow (May 13).

Paramedic students in a disaster drill on LIRR
Photo: Marc A. Hermann / MTA New York City Transit

Some might say the best is yet to come in May. You may find joy in one or more of the following in the days ahead:

The Biggest Week in American Birding (which is actually 9 days)
Reading is Fundamental Week (in case you hadn’t noticed my priorities)
National Sun Safety Week
National Polka Weekend (22-24)
Mudbug Madness Days (Shreveport, LA)
National Etiquette Week
Emergency Medical Services Week (preferably from a distance)
International Pickles Week (I celebrate dill, the others not so much)
Frog Jumping Jubilee Days (Calaveras County, CA)
National Bike to Work Week

Celebrate All Month Long

If even a week is too constraining—or just doesn’t have enough time to do it properly—go for one of the 118 Monthly Holidays and Observances. Trust me, there is something here for everyone! Just a few far-flung examples:

How good is your posture right now?

American Wetlands Month
Asian American and Pacific Islander Heritage Month
Arthritis Awareness Month
Be Kind to Animals Month (for when a single week isn’t enough!)
Correct Posture Month
Get Caught Reading Month
Gifts from the Garden Month
International Drum Month (though my drumming days are behind me)
National Chocolate Custard Month
National Smile Month
Women’s Health Care Month
National Vinegar Month (there are at least 15 different types.)
Personal History Awareness Month

This blog barely scratches the surface of the momentous options available for days, weeks, or all month long!

Bottom Line: All told, you have 734 opportunities to celebrate, observe and/or hone your awareness. If you don’t, it won’t be for lack of options.

DO WE REALLY NEED MORE THERAPISTS?

My Ph.D. is in Experimental Social Psychology. Though I was not a clinician, an article in the print edition of a recent Wall Street Journal grabbed my attention: Where Have All the Male Therapists Gone? (Published online as What Will Happen When All the Male Therapists are Gone? [March 12, 2026]) “… in the mid-1960s, the ratio of men to women in the field was 80 to 20. Today, that ratio has flipped.” (Going forward, any citation from that article will be marked **.) This is a great article, and I suggest you read it if you can.

“The main consequence of the feminization of psychology is the topics that are worked on,” says [Martin] Seligman. “From the 1960s through the 1980s, it was aggression, conflict and trauma, but not love, meaning, friendship or cooperation.” **

Women In Psychological Research

One might see this switch in research focus as “natural” when more women are researchers. In the early 20th Century, mainstream psychological research largely excluded women. When women were included in the research population, their data were interpreted through male-centered perspectives. That is, researchers assumed the male results to be the standard. Early psychology often pathologized women.

The psychology of women emerged as a distinct field and gained momentum during the rise of the feminist movement. Feminists challenged these biases, leading to research focused on women’s experiences, gender roles, identity, and the social and cultural factors affecting women’s mental health.

In 1973 the American Psychological Association (APA) established Division 35, the Society for the Psychology of Women, formalizing the field’s recognition. Since then, the field has expanded to include intersectional perspectives, exploring how race, class, sexuality, and other factors intersect with gender.

Downside for Men

male therapists

Though this change to less violent and more humane research has much to recommend it, Seligman sees less research on therapy and issues for boys and men as a downside. ** While I applaud psychology for—finally—recognizing the distinct experiences and needs of women, the current imbalance is equally regrettable. The male psyche is becoming less the norm than an aberration. According to Mark Kiselica, “They are greatly influenced by models that look at how boys and men are flawed rather than about boys and men are different.” ** It truly is a a reversal of psychology researchers’ bias.

Issues of bias aside, there is strong evidence that men are struggling today. In 2023, suicide rates for men were approximately four times higher than for women. Overall, men account for about 77% of suicides, while women make up about 23%, showing a stark gender difference in suicide mortality.

Roughly 15% of U.S. men aged 21-25 reported a major depressive episode in 2024. “It’s estimated that roughly 1 in 5 men suffer from some form of mental illness—a share that has increased from 13.6% in 2008.” **

Men are significantly less likely than women to seek therapy due to societal expectations, stigma, and perceptions that mental health issues are not “manly.” This may be changing—albeit slowly. “In 2024, 17.3% of men sought some form of counseling up from 8.7% in 2002.” **

Gender Wage Gap

Unintended—though probably not surprising—side effects of women becoming the majority of clinicians include lower pay and less prestige.

When Katherine Johnson was a computer programmer at NASA, it was considered “women’s work” and not well-paid.

Jobs with higher female representation typically pay less, even when requiring similar skill levels. This phenomenon is linked to occupational segregation and undervaluation of “feminine” work. In 2024, women in management, professional, and related occupations earned about 74 cents for every dollar earned by men in similar roles.

Indeed, women earn less than men across occupations, including those dominated by women.

Women earn significantly less than men for the same job. Depending on the source, the average pay gap ranges from 15-24%. Case in point, the recent negotiations for equal pay in the WNBA!

But it’s all relative! Even if male therapists earn more than female therapists, they are less likely to pursue careers in lower-paying professional fields.

But, truly, how important is the dearth of male therapists?

True, men who work in male-dominated fields are more likely to prefer a male therapist who “speaks the same language.” Nevertheless, only 40% of men expressed a gender preference for their therapist, and of those half preferred a woman. **

Clinicians agree that a well-trained therapist can work effectively with both male and female clients. Furthermore, research has found no differences between male and female therapists in their effectiveness or client outcomes.**

Lack of Therapists

So perhaps the real problem is the dearth of therapists overall.

The United States currently faces a significant shortage of therapists and mental health professionals relative to the demand for mental health services. Several factors may be contributing to this need.

Growing Mental Health Awareness
Increasing awareness and reduced stigma around mental health have led more people to seek therapy and counseling.

High Demand vs. Supply Gap
Many regions, especially rural and underserved urban areas, have insufficient numbers of therapists, leading to long wait times and limited access.

Rising Mental Health Challenges
The prevalence of anxiety, depression, PTSD, and other disorders has increased, partly exacerbated by the COVID-19 pandemic and social stressors.

Workforce Shortages
The mental health workforce is aging, with many professionals nearing retirement and fewer new therapists entering the field than needed.

Insurance and Cost Barriers
Even where therapists exist, cost and insurance coverage can limit access, making the demand for affordable, accessible therapy even more pressing.

Bottom Line: Expanding the mental health workforce with more therapists can improve access, reduce wait times, and support better mental health outcomes.

WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND

It’s everywhere! What was once outdated, a thing of the past, is experiencing a resurgence of popularity. Younger generations are exploring things familiar to their grandparents. The trend seems to be driven by nostalgia and/or a desire to “unplug.”

Food Goes Around and Comes Around

Why the comeback? This trend is rooted in a desire for comfort, authenticity, and sustainability. Many of these dishes are inherently plant-forward, use whole ingredients, and minimize food waste—aligning with modern values of mindful eating.

Nostalgic recipes draw chefs and home cooks with their versatility and affordability, making them perfect for everything from weeknight dinners to festive gatherings. The America We Remember channel on YouTube has many videos explaining nostalgic recipes.

The revival of old-fashioned foods often blends nostalgia with modern twists. Beloved classics are making a comeback, inspired by grandma’s kitchen and retro kitchens alike.

Comforting Casseroles & One-Pot Meals

Many people are reimagining these low-mess meals with healthier ingredients or gourmet touches. Once staples of mid-century dinner tables, these dishes are now celebrated for their simplicity and heartwarming appeal. Home cooks and chefs alike seek to recreate the cozy, soul-satisfying meals of yesteryear.

Other Nostalgic Foods Coming Back

Wedge salad: iceberg lettuce gets respectable again (here because I didn’t want it to stand alone!)

Salisbury steak

Cream-based soups (like Cream of Mushroom or Chicken) are also reappearing on menus

Chili dogs, often elevated with artisanal buns, house-made chili, or organic dairy

Fondue

Retro Desserts with a Modern Twist

Wacky Cake (a Depression-era wonder made without eggs or milk)

Jell-O molds are becoming popular again for their playful, creative potential, which people often feature in themed dinner parties

Chocolate-chip cookies baked from scratch, with bakers experimenting with heirloom recipes and high-quality ingredients

Classic Drinks & Snacks

  • Orange Julius, a mall staple from the ’80s and ’90s, with modern versions blending retro flavors and fresh ingredients
  • Jolt Cola, with “all the sugar and twice the caffeine!”
  • Old Fashioned
  • Negroni
  • Cosmopolitan
    • Bars are reporting increased demand from both older fans reliving their youth and younger generations eager to experience the retro drink.

Vodka-based drinks such as Appletinis and French Martinis are also making a comeback, embraced for their simplicity and versatility.

Food and Wine has named the “Guilty Pleasure” cocktail trend featuring drinks like Cosmos, Lemon Drops, and Lychee Martinis as the 2025 Drink Trend of the Year, reflecting a broader appetite for fun, indulgent, and nostalgic flavors.

Games Go Around and Come Around

Younger generations are re-discovering the excitement of playing games with someone IRL (in real life). A mix of nostalgia, accessibility, and innovation is driving the retro game revival.

Monopoly is the most popular board game, with over 275 million copies sold since 1935. Worldwide, there are over 500 million players. It also holds the Guinness World Record for having the most people playing at once (over 900!). Monopoly’s lowest popularity occurred during World War II when the war effort eliminated metal tokens and disrupted the game’s production in many countries. In 2025, 37% of U.S. consumers reporting playing it. The Pop Culture Hall of Fame inducted Monopoly as a Brand for 2025.

Mahjong is gaining popularity among young people, particularly Gen Z and Millennials, becoming a trendy social activity and a way to build community. Over the past year, interest has surged, partly driven by social media content and a desire to connect in person rather than online. Events like mahjong nights in cities such as San Francisco are drawing young crowds, blending tradition with modern socializing. Even interior designers are noticing the trend, with more requests for mahjong tables in home projects. The game’s nostalgic appeal, especially for young Asian Americans, has also contributed to its rising popularity.

Classic Games Reimagined

Many older games have been re-released with updated components, streamlined rules, or digital integrations, making them more appealing to today’s audiences. Additionally, the rise of board game cafes, streaming platforms, and social media has reintroduced these titles to new generations.

Chess, both as a game and a digital experience, is experiencing a renaissance in 2026, driven by the fusion of AI, esports, and the timeless appeal of strategy. The integration of AI into chess has not only enhanced how players learn and improve but also reignited global interest in the game as a digital sport. Magnus Carlsen, the world-renowned chess champion, has publicly stated that chess is “made for the digital age,” emphasizing its adaptability and relevance in today’s tech-driven world.

Catan (Settlers of Catan), Codenames, Dungeons and Dragons, Ticket to Ride, War of the Ring, Root, Dixit, and Azul are all seeing similar adaptations.

Card Games Going Digital

Card games are experiencing a resurgence, both in digital and physical formats.

Classic card games are benefiting from streamlined interfaces and the ability to play online, making them more appealing to both nostalgic players and younger audiences. Even retro and party-style card games are seeing a revival, blending nostalgia with modern accessibility.

The rise of digital card games is being driven by their convenience and accessibility, allowing players to enjoy quick matches that fit into busy schedules. This trend is reflected in the growing popularity of titles like Pokémon TCG and Hearthstone, which continue to attract new and returning players.

The physical trading card game (TCG) market is thriving, with a projected value of $11.8 billion by 2030, up from $7.8 billion in 2025, signaling robust growth and renewed interest.

This comeback isn’t just about nostalgia—it’s about adaptability. Digital card games, in particular, align with the way people play today, offering bite-sized experiences that fit into modern lifestyles.

Puzzles

Puzzles of all sorts are attracting new fans as a preferred way to unwind and reconnect with tactile, screen-free activities.

Vintage and wooden jigsaw puzzles are making a comeback, especially among seniors, due to their emotional and mental benefits.

Round wooden puzzle designs and 3D puzzles are also gaining popularity in 2025.

Hobbies Go Around and Come Around

This retro movement is often referred to as Granny hobbies. According to an NBC video, as social media fatigue grows among Gen Z, many are turning to “old fashioned” hobbies as a way to disconnect from screens and spend more time offline doing traditional crafts. “Grandma hobby” lovers embrace the homemade: décor, meals, and vintage household items.

  • Fiber arts, from cross-stitch to needlework
  • Gardening
  • Baking from scratch
  • Calligraphy
  • Knitting
  • Gardening and plant care
  • Pottery
  • Canning and preserving

The appeal lies not just in nostalgia but in the tangible joy of creating something with your hands and the mental health benefits of slowing down. Young people are turning to old-school hobbies to get off their phones.

Fashion Goes Around and Comes Around

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According to my reading, fashion is embracing nostalgia in 2026, with vintage styles from the 1970s, 1980s, and 1990s leading the trends, but occasionally going back even farther.

Some of the most likely vintage trends include pillbox hats, shell jewelry, tassels, bold animal prints like leopard and tiger, plus vibrant colors such as cobalt blue.

The 1970s are particularly popular, with flared skirts and boho chic.

Trends from the 1980s are reappearing: bold patterns, layered accessories, and statement outerwear. Chocolate brown is a key color, reflecting a broader movement toward rich, earthy tones and expressive designs.

Fashion houses predict that corset tops, especially those from designers like Jean Paul Gaultier, are predicted to be big in 2026. Tassel necklaces and vintage-inspired handbags, such as those from Louis Vuitton, are also expected to be everywhere, offering a touch of retro glamour.

Bottom Line: What’s old is new again!

SEEING RED

Vivian means “likes bright and vivid colors.” And I do, including red, which was my mother’s favorite color. I doubt she was alone here, but in the United States, the top six colors nationally are blue, black, gray, pink, white and green. Why didn’t red make the list?

Perhaps it’s because, in the U.S., the color has so many negative associations. Red is used almost universally in stop signs, alarms, and warnings. It signals alertness and caution, often linked to fire, blood, and emergency.

  • Stop signs
  • Traffic lights
  • Fire Trucks
  • No entry
  • Flammable liquid
  • Biohazard

Warning signs are commonly red because it is associated with danger, is highly visible, and stands out against most backgrounds, ensuring it can be seen from a distance even in poor conditions like fog or smoke. Many poisonous animals have red markings. In humans, exposure to red increases heart rate, raises blood pressure, and heightens alertness.

Symbolism One Step Removed

  • Seeing red. It means being very angry, mad, furious, irate, or enraged. Some synonyms for this phrase include losing your temper, exploding, erupting, losing patience, becoming enraged, or flying into a rage.
    • What about the bullfighter’s red cape, encouraging the bull to attack? Bulls are actually color-blind, but I’d be pretty mad too if someone was shaking a cape in my face and trying to stab me!
  • Then there is red faced. Depending on context, it could mean embarrassment or anger, but neither is pleasant.
  • Red lined: deleted.
  • Being in the red = financial deficit.

But this color is rich with symbolism across cultures, emotions, and contexts. It symbolizes a range of powerful concepts including love, passion, energy, vitality.

Seeing Red Emotions

Energy and Vitality

It symbolizes life force, strength, and physical energy. Its vibrancy grabs attention and can stimulate excitement or action.

Passion and Love

Red is associated with love, desire, and romance. It’s the color of hearts, roses, and Valentine’s Day.

Power and Courage

Mounties on Parade

Think red-blooded. Also, historically, red has symbolized power, leadership, and bravery. Warriors and royalty often wore red to signify status and valor.

Think about the “red coats” during the Revolutionary War, and the Canadian Mounted Police.

Anger and Aggression

The color can also evoke feelings of anger, aggression, or intensity, reflecting the heat of strong emotions.

Seeing Red Around the World

In Hinduism, red is associated with Lakshmi, the goddess of wealth and embodiment of beauty.

Indian Culture

In Indian culture, red symbolizes love, passion, power, fertility, prosperity, and marital bliss, often used in weddings, festivals, and religious ceremonies. Brides often wear red saris, representing love, prosperity, and new beginnings. Red is also used in religious ceremonies and festivals like Holi.

Chinese Culture

In Chinese culture, red is a symbol of good fortune, prosperity, happiness, and celebration, especially during festivals like Lunar New Year. It’s therefore prominent in weddings, festivals, and decorations, believed to ward off evil spirits.

American Traditions

Red is associated with Christmas (red berries, Santa’s suit) symbolizing warmth and festivity. Many opera houses have red seats to convey a sense of opulence. A red carpet also signifies especially formal occasions.

Red Square

Russian Beauty

The ancient Russian word for red and beauty are the same. Even today, Moscow’s Red Square (Красная площадь) would be more accurately translated as Beautiful Square.

African Traditions

In many African cultures, red beads or cloths symbolize life, health, and vitality, but can also represent danger or mourning depending on the context. The Ndembu in Central Africa associate red with life and health, so warriors and sick people wear red paint.

Seeing Red In Art

Red’s symbolism is woven through art, literature, and cultural traditions, carrying meanings that evoke deep emotions and ideas in viewers, readers, and participants—often reflecting the above.

Emotion and Drama

Artists use red to convey intense feelings—love, anger, passion, or violence. For example, in Renaissance paintings, red robes often signify power or sanctity (like in depictions of Christ or saints). Medieval painters often depicted martyrs in red clothing.

Focus and Contrast

Red draws the viewer’s eye, creating focal points or dramatic contrasts. Think of Henri Matisse’s bold use of red to energize his compositions.

The Lute, Henri Matisse (1943)

Symbol of Life and Death

Red can represent blood, vitality, or sacrifice. In Mexican Día de los Muertos art, red flowers symbolize the life force amid remembrance of death.

In Literature

Love and Desire

Red often symbolizes passionate love or temptation. Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet uses red imagery to underscore the intensity and tragedy of young love.

The Scarlet Letter, Hugues Merle (1681)

Violence and Danger

Red can signal bloodshed or conflict. In Nathaniel Hawthorne’s The Scarlet Letter, the scarlet “A” is a mark of sin and shame but also of identity and resilience.

Rebellion and Revolution

Red is also linked to upheaval and change, as seen in George Orwell’s Animal Farm, where the red flag symbolizes revolution and political power.

Red’s symbolism is a powerful reminder of life’s intensity—from love and celebration to warning and sacrifice. It’s a color that speaks to human experience across time and place.

Sustainable Perspective on Red Symbolism

A more recent interpretation is that red’s connection to blood and fire reminds us of life’s fragility and the importance of protecting natural resources. It can inspire urgent action toward climate and social justice, symbolizing both warning and passionate commitment.

Bottom Line: The effect of red is—totally?—dependent on context and culture.

SIDE EFFECTS OF NAMES

I confess: my interest in names goes back years, and I’ve written about them before. Previous blogs have focused on pen names, aliases, naming history, character names, and a reader’s perception of those names. But this blog has a different focus: work and education.

So, what might people be doing for—or to—their children inadvertently?

Names at School

For good or ill, it starts young. Consider educational institutions.

Race

names perception

Economist David N. Figlio, found that children with names associated with Black communities—like Da’Quan—receive different treatment in school than siblings with stereotypically Caucasian monikers. Furthermore, analyses suggest that the sound and spelling combinations trigger educators’ impressions.

A child with a name like Damarcus was 2% less likely than his brother David to be referred to a program for the gifted—even when both boys had identical test scores. All else being equal, the students with unusual names were also less likely than their conventionally named siblings to be promoted to the next grade. Figlio suggests both tendencies reflect teachers’ lower expectations for those children.

It may not be entirely subjective: districtwide, the uncommonly named children had lower mathematics and reading scores than their traditionally named peers. Could this be a case of self-fulfilling prophecy?

Gender

If you are a boy with a girl’s name, you could be more likely to face school suspension. In Figlio’s 2005 study, boys with names most commonly given to girls misbehaved more in middle school and were more likely to disrupt their peers. He also found that their behavioral problems were linked with increased disciplinary problems and lower test scores.

Personal note: I have an uncle from a large family named Pearl for his mother’s father and brother. He became one of the most successful of his siblings. That may just be an older generation. Or maybe it’s because he went by the nickname Butch!

Popularity and Crime

A 2009 study at Shippensburg University reported a strong relationship between the popularity of one’s first name and juvenile criminal. Regardless of race, young people with unpopular names were more likely to engage in criminal activity. “Adolescents with unpopular names may be more prone to crime because they are treated differently by their peers, making it more difficult for them to form relationships.”

Alternatively, “Juveniles with unpopular names may also act out because they … dislike their names.”

Alphabetically

names perception

And furthermore, according to a study published in the Economics of Education Review, if your last name is closer to the beginning of the alphabet, you could get into a better school. They found that even though students with low-in-the-alphabet last names tended to get higher test scores overall, among the students who applied to universities and were on the margins of getting admitted or not, those with last names that were close to the top of the alphabet were more likely to be admitted. This study was done with Czech students. There are no data indicating that this doesn’t apply in other countries.

Names at Work

Moving into the world of work. Business Insider published an extensive review of relevant research. Here is a summary of their review.

Easy and Common

names perception

If your name is easy to pronounce, people will favor you more—similar to Figlio’s findings, above. In a Marquette University  study, the researchers found evidence that names that were viewed as the least unique were more likable.

In a New York University study , researchers found that people with easier-to-pronounce names often have higher-status positions at work. Adam Alter, psychologist, quoted in Wired : “When we can process a piece of information more easily, when it’s easier to comprehend, we come to like it.”

People with common names were more likely to be hired, and those with rare names were least likely to be hired.

Ethnicity

If you have a white-sounding name, you’re more likely to be successful in your job hunt.

In a study described in The Atlantic, white-sounding names like Emily Walsh and Greg Baker got nearly 50% more callbacks than candidates with black-sounding names like Lakisha Washington and Jamal Jones. Researchers determined that having a white-sounding name is worth as much as eight years of work experience .

Nobility

names perception

If your name sounds noble, you are more likely to work in a high-ranking position.

In a European study, researchers studied German names and ranks within companies. Those with last names such as Kaiser (“emperor”) or König (“king”) were in more managerial positions than those with last names that referred to common occupations, such as Koch (“cook”) or Bauer (“farmer”). This could be the result of associative reasoning, a psychological theory that people automatically link emotions and previous knowledge with similar words or phrases.

Gender

If you are a woman with a gender-neutral name, you may be more likely to succeed in certain fields. In a citation of The Atlantic, in male-dominated fields such as engineering and law, women with gender-neutral names may be more successful. One study found that women with “masculine names” like Leslie, Jan, or Cameron tended to be more successful in legal careers.

Men with shorter first names are overrepresented in the c-suite—i.e., among CEOs, CFOs, COOs, etc. In 2011, LinkedIn analyzed more than 100 million user profiles to find out which names are most associated with the CEO position. The most common names for men were short, often one-syllable names like Bob, Jack, and Bruce. A name specialist speculated that men in power may use nicknames to offer a sense of friendliness and openness. 

On the other hand, the same study found that women at the top are more likely to use their full names. Perhaps women use their full names in an attempt to project professionalism and gravitas.

Middle Initial

Using your middle initial makes people think you’re smarter and more competent. According to research published in the European Journal of Social Psychology, using a middle initial increases people’s perceptions of your intellectual capacity and performance. In one study, students rated an essay whose authors had varying numbers of initials. The one with the most initials, David F.P.R. Clark, received the best reviews.

Social Psychology

The relationship between names and person perception is a fascinating topic in social psychology and communication studies. Here are some brief observations on the subject.

First Impressions and Stereotypes

Names often trigger automatic associations or stereotypes based on cultural, ethnic, or social cues. For example, people might perceive certain names as more traditional, modern, or linked to specific ethnic backgrounds.

These associations can influence initial judgments about a person’s personality, intelligence, socioeconomic status, or even trustworthiness.

names perception

The idea that people often look like their names likely stems from these stereotypes. However, these stereotypes are pervasive enough that tests have shown people are able to match a stranger’s face to the correct name. Researchers theorize that participants are subconsciously responding to social expectations of how a person with a particular name should look.

Name Uniqueness and Individuality

Unique or unusual names can make a person stand out, sometimes positively by signaling creativity or uniqueness, or negatively by causing bias or misunderstanding.

The impact depends on context, culture, and individual differences.

Gender and Age Perceptions

Names often carry gendered and generational signals, influencing expectations about behavior or roles. For instance, people might associate older-sounding names with wisdom or conservatism. On the other hand younger-sounding names might evoke impressions of modernity or innovation.

Why This Matters

Understanding how names influence perception helps us recognize unconscious biases and encourages more equitable and compassionate social interactions. It reminds us that a name, while a simple label, carries complex social meanings that shape human connection.

Overview of Key Findings from Studies on Names and Success in the U.S.

Note: Names correlated with success in the U.S. can vary depending on how “success” is defined—whether by income, education, career achievement, or social status. Research on this topic often relies on data such as income tax records, educational attainment, or professional accomplishments linked to first names.

Studies analyzing tax data and census records have found that certain names correlate with higher average incomes and educational attainment.

A 2011 study by economist Steven Levitt and colleagues analyzed IRS data and found that names like Gregory, Matthew, and Jennifer were among those associated with higher incomes.

  • Names like Emily, Jacob, Michael, Sarah, and Jessica have historically been linked with higher socioeconomic status.
  • Conversely, some names statistically correlate with lower income or education levels, often reflecting systemic inequalities.
  • This is likely because names often reflect cultural, ethnic, and socioeconomic backgrounds, which influence access to resources and opportunities.

Modern Trends

  • Popular names change over time, and correlations can shift with demographic changes.
  • Unique or unusual names sometimes face bias, but this is context-dependent.
  • As society becomes more diverse and inclusive, the correlations of particular names with status may evolve.

Correlation does not prove causation: the findings presented here—these correlations—mean that names tend to vary together with certain other characteristics, behaviors, or outcomes. It is not the same as causation. The name itself does not cause success; it is a proxy for underlying factors like family background, education, and community.

Bottom Line: Names carry deep cultural, personal, and societal meanings, influencing identity, perception, and (often) success.