SIDE EFFECTS OF NAMES

I confess: my interest in names goes back years, and I’ve written about them before. Previous blogs have focused on pen names, aliases, naming history, character names, and a reader’s perception of those names. But this blog has a different focus: work and education.

So, what might people be doing for—or to—their children inadvertently?

Names at School

For good or ill, it starts young. Consider educational institutions.

Race

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Economist David N. Figlio, found that children with names associated with Black communities—like Da’Quan—receive different treatment in school than siblings with stereotypically Caucasian monikers. Furthermore, analyses suggest that the sound and spelling combinations trigger educators’ impressions.

A child with a name like Damarcus was 2% less likely than his brother David to be referred to a program for the gifted—even when both boys had identical test scores. All else being equal, the students with unusual names were also less likely than their conventionally named siblings to be promoted to the next grade. Figlio suggests both tendencies reflect teachers’ lower expectations for those children.

It may not be entirely subjective: districtwide, the uncommonly named children had lower mathematics and reading scores than their traditionally named peers. Could this be a case of self-fulfilling prophecy?

Gender

If you are a boy with a girl’s name, you could be more likely to face school suspension. In Figlio’s 2005 study, boys with names most commonly given to girls misbehaved more in middle school and were more likely to disrupt their peers. He also found that their behavioral problems were linked with increased disciplinary problems and lower test scores.

Personal note: I have an uncle from a large family named Pearl for his mother’s father and brother. He became one of the most successful of his siblings. That may just be an older generation. Or maybe it’s because he went by the nickname Butch!

Popularity and Crime

A 2009 study at Shippensburg University reported a strong relationship between the popularity of one’s first name and juvenile criminal. Regardless of race, young people with unpopular names were more likely to engage in criminal activity. “Adolescents with unpopular names may be more prone to crime because they are treated differently by their peers, making it more difficult for them to form relationships.”

Alternatively, “Juveniles with unpopular names may also act out because they … dislike their names.”

Alphabetically

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And furthermore, according to a study published in the Economics of Education Review, if your last name is closer to the beginning of the alphabet, you could get into a better school. They found that even though students with low-in-the-alphabet last names tended to get higher test scores overall, among the students who applied to universities and were on the margins of getting admitted or not, those with last names that were close to the top of the alphabet were more likely to be admitted. This study was done with Czech students. There are no data indicating that this doesn’t apply in other countries.

Names at Work

Moving into the world of work. Business Insider published an extensive review of relevant research. Here is a summary of their review.

Easy and Common

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If your name is easy to pronounce, people will favor you more—similar to Figlio’s findings, above. In a Marquette University  study, the researchers found evidence that names that were viewed as the least unique were more likable.

In a New York University study , researchers found that people with easier-to-pronounce names often have higher-status positions at work. Adam Alter, psychologist, quoted in Wired : “When we can process a piece of information more easily, when it’s easier to comprehend, we come to like it.”

People with common names were more likely to be hired, and those with rare names were least likely to be hired.

Ethnicity

If you have a white-sounding name, you’re more likely to be successful in your job hunt.

In a study described in The Atlantic, white-sounding names like Emily Walsh and Greg Baker got nearly 50% more callbacks than candidates with black-sounding names like Lakisha Washington and Jamal Jones. Researchers determined that having a white-sounding name is worth as much as eight years of work experience .

Nobility

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If your name sounds noble, you are more likely to work in a high-ranking position.

In a European study, researchers studied German names and ranks within companies. Those with last names such as Kaiser (“emperor”) or König (“king”) were in more managerial positions than those with last names that referred to common occupations, such as Koch (“cook”) or Bauer (“farmer”). This could be the result of associative reasoning, a psychological theory that people automatically link emotions and previous knowledge with similar words or phrases.

Gender

If you are a woman with a gender-neutral name, you may be more likely to succeed in certain fields. In a citation of The Atlantic, in male-dominated fields such as engineering and law, women with gender-neutral names may be more successful. One study found that women with “masculine names” like Leslie, Jan, or Cameron tended to be more successful in legal careers.

Men with shorter first names are overrepresented in the c-suite—i.e., among CEOs, CFOs, COOs, etc. In 2011, LinkedIn analyzed more than 100 million user profiles to find out which names are most associated with the CEO position. The most common names for men were short, often one-syllable names like Bob, Jack, and Bruce. A name specialist speculated that men in power may use nicknames to offer a sense of friendliness and openness. 

On the other hand, the same study found that women at the top are more likely to use their full names. Perhaps women use their full names in an attempt to project professionalism and gravitas.

Middle Initial

Using your middle initial makes people think you’re smarter and more competent. According to research published in the European Journal of Social Psychology, using a middle initial increases people’s perceptions of your intellectual capacity and performance. In one study, students rated an essay whose authors had varying numbers of initials. The one with the most initials, David F.P.R. Clark, received the best reviews.

Social Psychology

The relationship between names and person perception is a fascinating topic in social psychology and communication studies. Here are some brief observations on the subject.

First Impressions and Stereotypes

Names often trigger automatic associations or stereotypes based on cultural, ethnic, or social cues. For example, people might perceive certain names as more traditional, modern, or linked to specific ethnic backgrounds.

These associations can influence initial judgments about a person’s personality, intelligence, socioeconomic status, or even trustworthiness.

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The idea that people often look like their names likely stems from these stereotypes. However, these stereotypes are pervasive enough that tests have shown people are able to match a stranger’s face to the correct name. Researchers theorize that participants are subconsciously responding to social expectations of how a person with a particular name should look.

Name Uniqueness and Individuality

Unique or unusual names can make a person stand out, sometimes positively by signaling creativity or uniqueness, or negatively by causing bias or misunderstanding.

The impact depends on context, culture, and individual differences.

Gender and Age Perceptions

Names often carry gendered and generational signals, influencing expectations about behavior or roles. For instance, people might associate older-sounding names with wisdom or conservatism. On the other hand younger-sounding names might evoke impressions of modernity or innovation.

Why This Matters

Understanding how names influence perception helps us recognize unconscious biases and encourages more equitable and compassionate social interactions. It reminds us that a name, while a simple label, carries complex social meanings that shape human connection.

Overview of Key Findings from Studies on Names and Success in the U.S.

Note: Names correlated with success in the U.S. can vary depending on how “success” is defined—whether by income, education, career achievement, or social status. Research on this topic often relies on data such as income tax records, educational attainment, or professional accomplishments linked to first names.

Studies analyzing tax data and census records have found that certain names correlate with higher average incomes and educational attainment.

A 2011 study by economist Steven Levitt and colleagues analyzed IRS data and found that names like Gregory, Matthew, and Jennifer were among those associated with higher incomes.

  • Names like Emily, Jacob, Michael, Sarah, and Jessica have historically been linked with higher socioeconomic status.
  • Conversely, some names statistically correlate with lower income or education levels, often reflecting systemic inequalities.
  • This is likely because names often reflect cultural, ethnic, and socioeconomic backgrounds, which influence access to resources and opportunities.

Modern Trends

  • Popular names change over time, and correlations can shift with demographic changes.
  • Unique or unusual names sometimes face bias, but this is context-dependent.
  • As society becomes more diverse and inclusive, the correlations of particular names with status may evolve.

Correlation does not prove causation: the findings presented here—these correlations—mean that names tend to vary together with certain other characteristics, behaviors, or outcomes. It is not the same as causation. The name itself does not cause success; it is a proxy for underlying factors like family background, education, and community.

Bottom Line: Names carry deep cultural, personal, and societal meanings, influencing identity, perception, and (often) success.

OMENS

I hope and trust you all made it through Friday, February 13, without anything too dreadful happening. If so, take a deep breath and gird your loins for Friday the 13th in March and November. Forewarned is forearmed.

And to that end, people from ancient times to today have sought portents of the future.

Omens are signs or phenomena believed to predict or indicate future events, often carrying symbolic meaning. Throughout history and across cultures, people have interpreted omens as messages from the spiritual world, nature, or the universe. Many believe these signs can provide guidance in decisions or forewarning of good or bad outcomes.

Common Types of Omens and Their Meanings

Bird Omens

Birds appearing in certain ways or places can be omens, and there are a ton of them. For example, many see a black crow or raven as a bad omen, while a dove often symbolizes peace or good news.

The Yeoman Warders of the Tower of London employ an official Ravenmaster who is responsible for the well-being of the ravens living at the Tower.

For more about any of these omens, visit Bird Spot’s article on common bird superstitions.

Weather Omens

Sudden changes like an unexpected storm or clear skies can be interpreted as omens of change or warning. Several weather omens have been scientifically validated over the years, including the following

  • Red Sky in Morning, Sailors Take Warning; Red Sky at Night, Sailors Delight
    • High pressure systems typically move from west to east, bringing unstable weather and trapping dust particles in the atmosphere, which causes a red sunset.
  • Feeling Bad Weather in Your Bones
  • Using Crickets as Thermometers
  • March Comes in Like a Lion and Goes Out Like a Lamb
Maybe it’ll only be partly cloudy
  • Cows Lying Down Means Wet Weather Is on the Way
  • Clear Moon, Frost Soon
  • Pine Cones Can Predict the Weather
    • Though the number of pinecones does predict the harshness of the coming winter, you can use pine cones to predict weather in another way: watching as they open in sunny weather or close before wet weather.
  • Counting Lightning Flashes and Thunderclaps Can Tell You a Storm’s Distance
  • A Lunar Halo

For more elaboration, see this article on How Stuff Works.

Animal Omens

Seeing certain animals, like snakes or owls, can have specific cultural meanings.

“Aschermittwoch” (“Ash Wednesday”), by Thomas Theodore Heine, from German Simplicissimus illustrated satirical magazine, 1903
  • For example, a black cat in China means good luck! But a black cat in the United States has long been thought to be a bad animal omen, so much so that black cats are the least adopted cat in the shelters.
  • In the U.S., owls are frequently seen as an omen of an impending death or illness in the family.
  • Similarly, buzzards and vultures are regarded as portents of death.
  • The meaning of a deer in your backyard varies but usually means spiritual change or renewal. However, seeing a white deer is a bad omen.
  • Nearly any albino animal is a bad omen. An exception: in contrast to the fear of white animals in the East, the birth of the White Buffalo was a good animal sign from the Great Spirit to the Cheyenne and Sioux tribes.
  • If a rabbit crosses your path from left to right this is bad luck; multiple rabbits in your yard is a sign of fertility.
  • A fox crossing your path is an increase in mental faculties—focus on learning and using your intelligence in tricky situations.
  • Seeing a bear could be a sign that’s time to protect your children and family from an invading illness or intruder; or, it may be time for you to dive into the world of herbalism.
  • When moles show up in Greece, they are bringing messages from the Underworld, from the goddesses of death and transformation, saying a time of great change is ahead.
  • Seeing a coyote (a trickster and a thief) is often a bad omen; the Navajo believed the coyote was associated with “evil magicians” or “witches.”
  • The appearance of an antelope means your ancestor have a message for you, according to the Plains Indians’ beliefs; the sight of an antelope is almost always a good animal sign.
  • Roosters crowing at the back door is a bad omen—yet another portend of death; however, if the rooster crows at your front door you will have visitors before sunset.

Everyday Signs—and Countersigns

Broken mirrors, spilling salt, and opening umbrellas indoors are common omens of misfortune, but not to worry! By keeping your wits about you (and knowing the correct protections), you may be able to avoid a calamity. Some people carry lucky charms for protection against everyday omens of bad luck.

  • If you spill salt, you can toss it into a fire or stove, pour wine into your lap, or throw it over your left shoulder to dispel the bad luck.
  • To avoid bad luck after breaking a mirror, you can spin around three times counterclockwise, bury the pieces at night, or throw salt over your left shoulder.
  • If you’ve mentioned a potential calamity, you might touch iron or knock on wood to dispel the jinx and prevent misfortune.
  • If some people must walk under a ladder, they say a small positive phrase to feel more secure—which can help psychologically.
  • To avoid bad luck if you spill wine, dab the spilled wine behind your ears, as this may transform bad luck into good luck.

Heavenly Omens in the Past

Celestial events such as eclipses, comets, etc., often carried deep symbolic weight, sometimes altering decisions or fueling legends. Famous omens have shaped history by influencing leaders, societies, and pivotal events. Here are a few examples from history.

The Eclipse Before the Battle of Gaugamela (331 BCE)

  • Omen: A solar eclipse occurred before Alexander the Great’s decisive battle against Darius III.
  • Meaning: Some soldiers feared bad luck, but Alexander used it to inspire his troops.
  • Outcome: Alexander won, expanding his empire dramatically.

The Soothsayer’s Warning to Julius Caesar (44 BCE)

  • Omen: “Beware the Ides of March.”
  • Meaning: A Roman soothsayer warned Caesar to be cautious on March 15, 44 BCE.
  • Outcome: Caesar was assassinated on that very day, making this omen legendary as a symbol of fate and ignored warnings.

Even today, people—more or less seriously—tell themselves or others to beware the Ides of March. Although every month has an ides (the 15th of the month, according to Roman calendars), only March makes people think this way.

Interestingly, Suetonius wrote of another omen foretelling Caesar’s assassination. He claimed that a wren carrying a sprig of laurel flew into the Roman Senate on the 14th of March, but a frenzied crowd of other birds followed the wren and tore it to pieces.

Halley’s Comet and the Norman Conquest (1066)

  • Omen: Halley’s Comet appeared in the sky before the Battle of Hastings in 1066.
  • Meaning: Many saw the comet as a bad omen, signaling change and doom.
  • Outcome: William the Conqueror defeated King Harold, leading to the Norman takeover of England.
Halley’s Comet depicted in the Bayeux Tapestry

King Henry’s Eclipse (1133)

  • Omen: Londoners saw a total solar eclipse on August 2, 1133, as contemporary chroniclers recorded.
  • Meaning: William of Malmesbury said that “the sun on that day, at the sixth hour, shrouded his glorious face, as the poets say, in hideous darkness, agitating the hearts of men by an eclipse.” William saw the eclipse as a presage of the king’s death, saying “The providence of God, at that time, bore reference in a wonderful manner to human affairs: for instance, that he should embark, never to return alive.”
  • Outcome: King Henry I of England left for Normandy, which he also ruled. He died there in 1135, having never returned to England.

The Appearance of the “Blood Moon” Before the Fall of Constantinople (1453)

  • Omen: Astronomers saw a red lunar eclipse, called a Blood Moon, before the Ottoman Empire captured Constantinople.
  • Meaning: Many interpreted it as a sign of impending disaster for the Byzantine Empire.
  • Outcome: The city fell, marking a major shift in history.

Columbus’s Bloody Moon (1504)

  • Omen: A red lunar eclipse. Columbus had with him a book of astronomical tables that predicted a lunar eclipse for February 29, 1504.
  • Meaning: Columbus claimed his God was angry with the natives of Jamaica, for denying Columbus’s crew food (which they had done because of months of thievery).
  • Outcome: The indigenous people pleaded with Columbus to restore the moon. He said he would intercede with God. The eclipse passed, and the supplies resumed.

The “Angels of Mons” (1914)

These omens show how natural or mystical signs were woven into human history, often reflecting hope, fear, or destiny—and probably a dollop of coincidence. But they remind us how deeply humans seek meaning in the world around them. For more examples from history, read the Britannica article Nine Celestial Omens.

Bottom Line: The meaning of omens depends on context, culture, and one’s individual beliefs. But even non-believers are aware of many of these omens.

WHAT PEOPLE WILL DO FOR MONEY

It’s the time of year when many—most?—people would like to have a bit more money. Or a lot. Besides taking another job, selling their souls to corporate overlords, hustling for more tips, or panhandling, what are people doing?

There’s Always Selling Something

Lots of people sell online, everything from “pre-owned” clothes to collectibles of all sorts (think depression era glass or carved wooden pigs).

Selling Parts of Yourself

Of course, your first thought would probably be for selling items you’ve found or made. But you might start a bit closer to home.

  • More personally, if you have good hair, you could sell that. Estimates suggest that several million people worldwide participate in hair selling annually, but exact numbers vary. But the human hair market, which includes hair extensions, wigs, and other hair products, is a multi-billion-dollar industry.
  • Really personally, you could sell spare organs.
    • Although selling human organs is illegal in the U.S. and most other countries, some estimates indicate that trafficked organs account for up to 10% of organ transplants performed around the world.
    • Kidneys, lungs, and liver come to mind. Humans can live with one kidney or one lung, and a healthy liver will regenerate from the part remaining after a transplant.
  • Sell your plasma ($150-700/mo according to online sources).
  • Sell sperm to a sperm bank
  • “Rent” your womb as a surrogate mother
  • With no medical intervention, you could sell feet or hand images, posting pictures on sites like Instafeet or Feetify

Turn Trash into Treasure

It’s amazing what people throw away!

  • Haunt the neighborhood on trash collecting day or visit dumps. Salvage sellable items, clean, and resell.
  • If you are artsy/crafty – turn found items into works of art and sell them at local fairs, etc.
  • If you garden, sell plant cuttings, cullings, and seedlings.
  • Collect cans and bottles and sell to a recycling center.
  • Sell cockroaches or crickets to pet stores as food for larger animals.
  • Check the change in your pocket for rare coins that might be worth more than their face value.

Essentially, if you have it, you can (try to) sell it.

Sell Your Services

If you don’t have things to sell, you might be able to sell your time and skills.

Talent Required

  • This time of year, help people decorate for Christmas (or do the whole job).
  • Help with course materials via OneClass
  • Participate in online mock juries
  • Beta test video games, phone apps, and computer programs
  • Act as a Notary Public (for spending cash, it won’t pay your bills)
  • Substitute as a teacher at local schools
  • If you are mechanically inclined, you could hire out your handyman services
  • Create websites for independent businesses or freelancers
  • Be a photographer or videographer for weddings and parties
  • Work temporary gigs for events, such as catering, DJ-ing, set-up and break-down, or security
  • Be a professional hugger
    • In CA and NYC, you could earn over $150/hour!
  • Phone sex operator
  • Model for art classes
  • Referee seasonal sports—if you have the skill and stamina! (And the patience to stand up to upset players or coaches)

Time Required

Even if you feel you have no marketable skills, there are still ways to make a quick buck.

  • Be a “line sitter
    • When there’s a high demand ticketed event, go to the venue and offer to wait in line for someone—for whatever fee the traffic will bear.
  • Take drugs!
    • Participate in paid clinical trials for pharmaceuticals or other treatments. If you’re relatively healthy and not taking med/drugs, you can qualify for some drug trials. You’ll have to review them carefully because some things you just don’t want to mess with while others are relatively similar to drug trials.
  • Volunteer for testing medical devices/smartwatches that measure blood pressure and/or blood oxygen.
    • Each session generally lasts 60-90 minutes, could pay hundreds of dollars, and only requires giving a small amount of blood. Participation is typically limited to 2x per month.
  • Dog/cat/house sitting
    • If you stay at peoples’ houses with their animals, you could be paid more, up to $80/night.
  • Take paid surveys
  • Remove lice from peoples’ heads
  • Move things to/from storage units
  • Garbage can cleaning—or other basic but gross jobs
  • Deliver local magazine monthly (could be $150-250/month)
  • Sign your kids up for research studies (e.g., get paid for letting a researcher watch your kids play)

…Other

And then there are a few options that I just couldn’t categorize:

  • Watch for class-action lawsuits and join when you qualify.
  • Rent out your backyard for campers.
  • Found a new religion and demand tithes from all your new followers.
  • Compete in interesting competitions (eating, writing, shooting basketballs, etc.) for cash prizes.
  • Create community/local nude calendar. Lakeview, OR, did this to raise money for snow removal (Wall Street Journal,12/11/25).
  • Sell tickets to your wedding. (Personally, I’d label this incredibly rude, gross, and financially stupid!) YouTube had a viral posting about a couple who invited 350 people to their wedding at a cost of $333 per person—including family! Only 60 people attended.
  • Closely related: The Wall Street Journal (again,12/9/25) featured an article, The Lavish Weddings Where Crashers Are Welcome—for a Fee. Apparently there is a website that invites tourists (or others) to attend an Indian wedding, $150 for one day, $250 for multi-day celebrations.

Check out this Buzzfeed article for more suggestions and personal stories.

Bottom Line: Where there’s a will, there’s a way! Search online for novel ideas that suit your situation and inclinations.

THE DOWN SIDE OF GIVING

I know it’s counter to the expectations of the season. Besides Giving Tuesday, many organizations (including our local CBS news) are in the midst of a month of giving. Culturally, giving is a good thing. But it isn’t purely positive.

Giving Opens Floodgates

My motivation for writing this blog is the deluge of text messages, emails, and snail mails asking for money. I’m steeped in the downside of giving: once you are on a list, you are doomed.

The organization or cause you originally donated to seeks more frequent and/or bigger donations.

Selling mailing lists can generate lots of revenue. Once an organization has a list of reliable donors, they often sell that list to other entities. Donors are then inundated with with requests for further donations to entirely new organizations!

Donations to political candidates trigger requests from other candidates in the same party. These can come from all over the country. Supporting a candidate at the national level opens you up to solicitations from state and local candidates—not necessarily your own state or locale!

Some solicitations come with a “free gift” to create guilt or an obligation to donate. Often these gifts are of poor quality or completely useless to the recipient. One organization sent me so many free gifts that I doubted how much of my donation was actually going to forward the stated mission. I stopped donating to that group altogether.

Responding to a mail solicitation can trigger follow-up phone calls as well.

Giving ’til It Hurts!

Once, I volunteered my time and professional know-how for a set number of hours on set days per week. That morphed into requests for special events and monetary contributions. I doubt I’m alone in this experience.

I’m currently voluntarily teaching a memoir class a few times per year. Fortunately, I enjoy it. There is considerable social pressure to continue doing so.

When I searched this topic online, I found that giving can have negative effects on the donor, including financial strain and instability, high tax burdens, loss of personal wealth, emotional guilt and anxiety, burnout and compassion fatigue, and neglect of personal relationships, potentially weakening social cohesion and exacerbating inequality if generosity creates donor-recipient hierarchies. In short, I learned that there are more serious drawbacks than the irritation factor that started me down this path.

Further Reading

Here are a few sources you might wish to pursue.

The Other Side of Charity: 10 Shocking Negative Effects of Generosity Unforeseen Consequences of Giving by Richard Wilson

The Dark Side of Being a Giver: Discussing Martyrdom, Low Self-Worth, and Giving to Get by Shoba Sreenivasan and Linda Weinberger, posted March 18, 2019

There’s A Downside To Giving (And It Has Nothing To Do With You) by Darrah Brustein
This article discusses problems giving can do to relationships, and how to avoid them.

Philanthropic Harm: How “Doing Good” Can Go Bad by Michael Moody
This article includes the following sections:

  • Malfeasance, Corruption, Fraud
  • Diversion of Resources
  • Reinforcing the Status Quo
  • Favoring Philanthropists’ Needs Over Recipients’
  • Teleopathy
  • Lack of Transparency
  • Faulty or Inefficient Strategy
  • Faulty or Inefficient Implementation
  • Lack of Measurable Impact
  • Unintended Consequences
  • Short-Term Band-Aids
  • Dependency
  • Paternalism and Cultural Insensitivity
  • Risks for Philanthropists
  • Tainted Donors and Tainted Money

According to Charities Aid Foundation 2024 World Giving Index, 76% of U.S. adults helped a stranger, 61% donated money, and 39% volunteered. This gave the U.S. a World Giving Index Score rank of #6 for 2024 (after Indonesia, Kenya, Singapore, the Republic of Gambia, and Nigeria, and just ahead of Ukraine). In short, there’s a lot of giving out there.

Bottom Line: I’d never suggest that people not give, only urge that they consider the unintended side effects.

AI: FRIEND OR FOE?

Whatever your answer, the importance of Artificial Intelligence can’t be overstated. AI is all over print and other media, here to stay. Are we benefitting or suffering?

True confession: I started off feeling negative about AI for purposes other than searching for information.

AI for Prolific Writing

One of my favorite forms of escapist reading is Pride and Prejudice fan fiction. Recently I read several books by Rachelle Ayala. Pretty entertaining. I usually gave her four out of five stars. I marveled at her productivity. When I looked at all her publications, Kindle came up with 715 titles! I discovered multiple books in multiple series. And then I saw these two titles: Love by the Prompt: A Romance Writer’s Guide to AI-Powered Writing; and An AI Writer’s Journal: From 0 to 70000 in 14 Days.

My knee-jerk reaction was to vow never to read another of her books. In my opinion, her practices were equivalent to plagiarism: claiming another’s thoughts or ideas as one’s own. I didn’t actually read those two books, but I investigated a bit more. Ayala says, “I am a romance author of over 140 books with two additional pen-names ‘Clare Chu’ (Humor) and ‘Bella Vex’ (Horror).” It turns out that Rachelle Ayala is an award-winning USA Today bestselling author of contemporary romance and romantic suspense. Should I eschew better-than-average entertainment because I don’t approve of the method?

And going forward, how will I know?

Risks of AI Writing Careers

Looking into AI and writing a bit more, I read a recent Wall Street Journal article (11/22/25) profiling two sisters, an auto mechanic and a struggling writer. AI isn’t threatening the former career. Of the latter, “In moments of doubt, Sophia has considered a fallback plan, which was to get certification in AI prompt writing.” But she might need a fallback for her fallback: that once-hot job has been rendered obsolete as AI has become better at understanding poorly written prompts. She concluded, “I’m not at the point yet where I’m willing to compromise writing full-time.”

In truth, writers can use AI in ways I (for one) consider legitimate.

A brief search online turned up the following suggestions for ways a writer can use AI, allowing more time for the creative aspects of writing:

  • Automate tasks like research and data analysis
  • Improve grammar and spelling
  • Generate word choices
  • Draft and enhance content
  • Translate audio to text or vice versa for accessibility
  • Brainstorm creative ideas
  • Create personalized or supplementary material such as video content or internal communications

Personally, I doubt AI will ever generate works comparable to Shakespeare (or Jane Austen). But as the father of the daughters profiled in the WSJ article put it, “At my company, they say you won’t be replaced by AI, but you might be replaced by someone who knows AI better than you do.”

Although my focus is writing—creative writing—I’m aware of ways teachers can use AI to personalize teaching plans. In addition, according to my reading, AI can enhance healthcare delivery, improve disaster response, enable predictive analytics for government services to be more efficient, assist in cancer screening, expand access to social welfare processes, and empower underrepresented communities by addressing social challenges and driving targeted, data-driven solutions.

Downsides of AI

So why not embrace AI with open arms?

The process of training AI programs involves feeding massive amounts of data into the system. Companies have procured that data through copyright infringements, privacy violations, and wholesale scraping of the data of people who may not even be aware of it. Many authors are now including warnings at the end of their books that they do not consent to the use of their work to train AI. Every result from an AI program, including silly videos, audio deepfakes, AI therapists, machine-generated music, insurance claim denials, and medical screening, ultimately relies on the input of humans, whether they consented or not.

AI programs also require vast amounts of computing power, which in turn requires huge data centers, staggering amounts of energy, and massive cooling systems. A single question asked in ChatGPT uses ten times as much electricity as the same question asked in a web browser. Communities near data centers often face water shortages, skyrocketing electricity costs, constant industrial noise, and pollution endangering the health of local residents.

Google Data Center, Council Bluffs Iowa

Research also indicates that, while students who rely excessively on AI may “get the right answer” more quickly, they are less likely to remember the rationale over time. I fear over-dependence on AI will dull human problem-solving skills, critical thinking, and creativity.

And my AI generated response to this query: “Possible negatives of AI include bias in algorithms due to human input, high implementation costs and potential degradation over time, unemployment and workforce disruption, reliability and accuracy concerns, misalignment with use cases leading to ineffective outputs, lowered information integrity, risk of misleading results, and broader societal harms if systems are unfair or unsafe.”

Bottom Line: AI is friend AND foe.

FORTUNE TELLING BONES

My first experience with fortune telling bones was wishing bones: making a wish while breaking the turkey wishbone (the breast bone) with my sister, hoping for the longer piece and the wish fulfillment it would bring.

Check out the rest of this bone series: Bone Music, Bones are for Eating, and Bone Appreciation!

History of Telling One’s Fortune with Bones

It turns out that the tradition of breaking a wishbone dates back over 2,400 years. Back then, the Etruscan people believed that chickens had all sorts of powers, including predicting the future and ensuring good fortune. The Etruscans thought that the collarbone of a chicken was sacred. After leaving it to dry in the sun, people would hold the unbroken bone and make a wish for good luck. The “wishbone tradition” originated in this early practice.

Subsequently, the people of Rome adopted the wishing tradition along with other Etruscan customs. They fought over the unbroken bones of chickens. It may be that the phrases, “I need a lucky break,” or “I never get a break,” came from the loser in the tug of collarbone contest.

The wishing bone tradition spread throughout England. When the Pilgrims arrived in the New World, they brought the custom of breaking the wishbone with them. Although there were no chickens in North America then, turkeys were abundant. European settlers transferred the custom from chickens to turkeys.

Painful Fortune Telling Bones

Some people have weather bones. I.e., they can predict changes in the weather by “feeling it” in their bones. Is this a real thing? Yes. Changes in barometric pressure and temperature can dramatically affect arthritic bones.

arthritis fortune telling bones

As many as two-thirds of people who live with chronic joint pain believe there’s a connection between their pain and changes in the weather. In a 2007 study, researchers at Tufts University found that for every 10-degree temperature drop, there was a corresponding increase in arthritis pain—i.e., the colder the weather, the greater the pain. They also reported that increasing barometric pressure increased pain, which makes sense because colder air is heavier. So, for (at least some) people, joint pain is a predictor of colder weather.

What about other methods of bone divination? I don’t have the space to discuss them all here, but many resources online provide more details and examples.

Osteomancy

Osteomancy is an ancient form of predicting the future by tossing a set of animal bones onto the ground and interpreting their positions and orientations. A set of bones for divination can be used repeatedly.

Modern practitioners of osteomancy say one should either use bones found in nature or purchase an ethically sourced set. The ideal bones for osteomancy come from animals who died of natural causes.

Scapulimancy

Deer scapula

Scapulimancy is divination using scapulae (shoulder blades). It is/was most widely practiced in China as oracle bones, but has also been independently developed in other areas, including the West.

Generally, people used scapulimancy in predicting future weather events and personal health status. Some religious practices also required fortune telling through bones.

Historically, scapulimancy has taken two major forms. In the first, practitioners simply examined the scapula of a slaughtered animal. This form was widespread in Europe, Northern Africa, and the Near East.

The second form involves the heating or burning of the bone and interpretation of the results. People practiced this form in East Asia and North America.

Rituals surrounding the reading of scapulae varied widely, and I don’t have the space to go into many details here. Suffice it to say the practice is ancient.

Scapulimancy in East Asia

Mongolians were one of the earliest peoples to use scapulimancy, according to archaeological digs in Inner Mongolia dating scapulae to approximately 3322 BCE. Diviners referred to divination manuals to guide their interpretation of the animal remains, reading the color of the bones and formation of cracks.

Archaeological sites along the south coast and off-lying islands of the Korean peninsula show that people used deer and pig scapulae in divination during the Korean Protohistoric Period, c. 300 BCE – 300/400 CE.

Chinese fortune telling bones from the Shang Dynasty

Archeological discoveries in China have yielded many specimens from a period spanned from 1250 to 1046 BCE. Ancient diviners likely exposed the bones (pig, sheep, cattle, and deer) to heat, deriving meaning from cracks that formed. The reading provided predictions for agricultural and health purposes.

Chapter 5 of the Kojiki, the Japanese Record of Ancient Matters, also mentions fortune telling bones. The heavenly deities used this process of scapulimancy during a consultation by lesser gods.

Scapulimancy in Europe and the Middle East

Scapulimancy is a method of divination among Greek and Serb farmers, even today. The memoirs of several warriors who fought during the Greek War of Independence include references. After feasts of roast lambs or kids, anyone who knew how to “read” a scapula would clean it of any remaining flesh and, lifting it up to the light, interpret the various shadowy bits showing on the transparent part of the bone.

In European Renaissance magic, scapulimancy was classified as one of the seven “forbidden arts”, along with necromancy, geomancy, aeromancy, pyromancy, chiromancy (palmistry), and hydromancy.

Evidence of Arabic scapulimancy is sparse. A Florentine manuscript dated to the 1600s is currently the most referenced source and attributes the practice of scapulimancy in medieval Western European civilizations to the migration of traditions and ideas from the Arabic world. Historians have proposed trade across the Silk Road as a medium through which scapulimantic practices pervaded medieval European traditions from merchant trade with Arabic nomads.

Scapulimancy in South Africa

Zulu diviners in South Africa, known as izangomas, traditionally used bone reading in conjunction with other rituals involving herbal concoctions to communicate with spirits and those who have passed. The izangoma placed treated bones into the medicine, then interpreted aspects of the scapula floating above the liquid as spiritual communication. People within the community will seek out an izangoma if they would like personal questions answered or to communicate with the deceased. Witch doctors in many African communities still use scapulimancy and other bone reading rituals in a wide array of traditional healing ceremonies.

Astragalomancy

Mongolian astragli fortune telling bones
Mongolian astragali

Astragalomancy (also known as cubomancy) is a form of divination that uses dice specially marked with letters or numbers. Historically, the “dice” were usually knucklebones or other small bones of quadrupeds.

Each face of the die bears a symbol to convey meaning either to the reader or the divine powers. The diviner interprets this sequence according to certain rules – usually rules related to a religion (e.g. Tibetan Buddhism and the Mo system of cubomancy).

The practice of determining divine truth via random castings of dice or bones stretches back before recorded history. The Metropolitan Museum of Art displays bone “dice” (hakata) used by the Shona people of southern Africa for thousands of years.

Greek women playing knucklebones

Archaeologists have found marked astragali at many digs around the Mediterranean, including a site in Athens, Greece, dating to about 500 BCE. The Ancient Greeks performed astragalomancy by rolling dice and then consulting “dice oracles”, tables of divination results carved into statues or monoliths. In addition to matching the numbers on the astragali to the dice oracles, practitioners also held that certain numbers corresponded with particular divinities and would bring divine blessings.

The huayru is a dice game people play in South America at funerals. The game is traditionally played with llama bones, as they are believed to have a special power to attract the soul of the deceased. Reasons for playing this game revolve around divining the will of the recently deceased, often to communicate and receive guidance. The players of the game try to influence the results of the dice by offering prayers or pouring libations. (To me, this seems similar to blowing on dice before a roll for luck.)

Today, many people still call dice “bones”—whatever their material—because they were originally made of bone, as outlined above. If you want real bone dice, they are readily available online.

When everything rides on the roll of the dice, it reminds me of the wishbone tradition I started with.

Bottom Line: People have used bones to predict the future since time out of mind. Should you wish to try your hand, you can still acquire the bone ‘tools’ you need.

WHEN ONE BRAIN ISN’T ENOUGH

Multiple brain arrangement diagrams
One brain, two brains,
Three brains, or four,
Five brains, six brains,
Seven brains or more.

According to Merriam-Webster , brains are the central processing units (organs) whose function is to control functionalities of a living body. Who needs—or could even use—more than one brain? Certainly not humans!

But consider other animals, living other lives, needing to function differently to live and reproduce.

The current (10-09-2025) issue of The New York Review of Books had a l-o-n-g article on five (!) books about octopuses (Such Flexible Intensity of Life by Verlyn Klinkenborg). The first paragraph includes the sentence, “An octopuses’s brain is distributed throughout its soft, amorphous body: nine brainlike (sic) nerve clusters, one at the base of each arm and another at its head.” It’s a fun read about how octopuses live, why each arm needs a brain, and what several writers have to say about them.

My immediate thought was “Do other animals have more than one brain?” Read on to learn what I discovered!

Multiple Brains

For many animals, one brain simply isn’t enough for the job.

Cephalopod Brain Arrangements

Cephalopods include octopuses, squids, nautiluses, and cuttlefish.

Octopus brain and anatomy
Octopus Anatomy

These animals all possess many arms. Their central brains form a ring around their esophagus and their arms are constantly testing the environment, processing the information they gather, “thinking” for themselves.

Octopuses have nine brains. The main one is in their head. In addition, each arm can touch, control, and move independently of the others thanks to the cluster of neurons in it. This is part of what makes them so smart. They’re able to figure out puzzles, open containers, and untie knots. In total, octopuses have more than 500 million neurons, only 30% located in the central brain. The brains don’t have to communicate with one another to work, but they can stay in touch to be more effective. (For more fascinating details, check out Ze Facts’ video True Facts About The Octopus.)

Squids have three brains. The main one is used to control the body as a whole while the other two (optic lobes) are dedicated to the eyes. Squid brains resemble donuts in shape. Though there are three brains, they are relatively small compared to the size of the body. Based on research on squids, approximately 80 percent of the brainpower goes toward processing visual information.

Cuttlefish brain
Australian Giant Cuttlefish

Cuttlefish are cousins to octopuses and squids. With 500 million neurons dispersed throughout the body, some say they have 9 brains. Cuttlefish can count up to 5, on par with infant humans and young monkeys. They can delay gratification: hungry cuttlefish will resist mediocre treats for tastier ones delivered later, a sign of intelligence thought to be important for decision making and planning. When cuttlefish were trained to remember when and what they were fed, older cuttlefish did just as well as the young cuttlefish even though they showed other signs of aging

Insect Brain Arrangements

Scientists estimate there are more than 900,000 different types of insects. I’m concerned here with the brain arrangements of cockroaches, bumblebees, and mosquitoes.

Bumblebee brain
Bumblebee brain structure

Bumblebees have three brains as well. One controls the wings, another controls the stinger, and the third manages the antennae. These brains are more focused on instinct and basic memorization than actual memories and behaviors. Compared to other insects and their sizes, bumblebee brains are rather small. However, they are able to remember flowers and areas full of pollen for future use. They can find their way to previous locations, new areas, and back home.

Mosquitoes have three brains inside their body. The first is in the head, the second in the wings, and the third in the abdomen. These brains tend to focus on working the nearest body part. Mosquitoes have a central brain that runs the whole body, one that runs the wings, and one that runs the legs and stomach. Though their brains are tiny, about 1/1000th the size, and only 100 million neurons compared to 10 billion in people, they are still rather smart. They learn to avoid certain predator habitats, and how to find food and water via smell.

Cockroach brain
Head brain of a cockroach

Cockroaches have two brains, one in the head, the other near the abdomen. This is what allows cockroaches to continue to move for a while even if they become decapitated. Though they might live for a minute, they will still die shortly after decapitation. The two brains also allow cockroaches to move fast. They are also intelligent, remembering where they left items and recognizing various objects. They can even remember faces. Though their brains are about 1/20th the size of a human’s and have about a third of the number of neurons, they have twice as many synapses. These synapses are what pass information back and forth. This allows for memory storage and keeps the brain active.

Annelid Brain Arrangements

Annelids, aka segmented worms, include more than 20,000 species, none of which you’d want to invite for dinner. Many of them, including leeches and silkworm moths, have very interesting brain configurations.

Leeches may have the most brains of any animal. A leech’s body contains 32 different segments. Each of these segments has its own brain. These brains are actually small ganglions and are responsible for their specific section. Each of these 32 different brains have about 400 neurons. Together, there are about 500 unique types of neurons in one leech. This design might help them make faster decisions, slow down the aging process, or allow them to use brains in place of nerves.

Silkworms and silkworm moths, also have quite a few brains. They have 11 distinct brain lobes; other moths and butterflies don’t have as many lobes. Additionally, most other similar insects form one brain made up of several lobes, rather than distinct lobes. The brains of silkworms are less than a tenth of the size of a human brain. However, they’ve been shown to remember and learn information rather than just relying on instincts.

Gastropod Brain Arrangements

Snails and slugs, the two types of gastropods, have very similar brain structures. However, they’re not entirely the same.

Central ring ganglia of a Great Pond Snail

Snails have three to six brains! Originally, species had two sets of ganglia, or brains, for movement, breathing, and eating. However, in many species, the two sets fused into one and formed a nerve ring around it. In some species, especially the more primitive ones, it’s more likely to see two sets still, for a total of six brains instead of three.

Despite being fragile and simple, slugs have three brains. They are located in the esophagus and are called buccal, cerebral, and pleural. The buccal is used for feeding, the cerebral is used for movement and senses, and the pleural manages breathing and respiration. For a long time, slugs were thought to have pretty weak brains overall, especially considered to be weaker than average mammal brains. However, scientists found that slug brains work similarly to humans in some ways. They save memories and patterns in the same way the average human would.

Arachnid Brain Arrangements

Arachnids, which are not insects, by the way, have only one brain. Nevertheless, they can behave in ways that seem extra intelligent. Here, I’ll deal only with spiders as an example.

There’s a surprising amount of activity behind those eyes.

Spiders have large brains for their size, some spiders having brains that take up 80% of the body. The brain of a spider sits inside its fused head and thorax, surrounded by muscle and other tissues. The large brains are important for functions like web building or hunting. Behaviors that can be described as “cognitive,” as opposed to automatic responses, are fairly common among spiders. From orb weavers that adjust the way they build their webs based on the type of prey they are catching to ghost spiders that can learn to associate a reward with the smell of vanilla , there’s more going on in spider brains than they commonly get credit for.

Single Brains

Mammals normally have only one brain. However, exceptions can occur in dogs, monkeys, cats, and even human beings — but these are mainly due to polycephaly, a rare genetic anomaly when an animal is born with two heads. Which means two brains.

Mammals’ single brains come in a wide variety

No Brains

Scientists have not reached any consensus on whether zombies actually have brains of their own.

And there are some animals with no brains or nervous tissue of any kind.

They tend to be extremely simple animals possessing rudimentary biological characteristics sufficient for survival. Many are immobile, using sensory nerves to “find” food and avoid danger. Oddly enough, they are similar to technology (such as computers and smartphones), which also use sensors to detect light, movement, chemicals, and so on. Brainless animals operate in the same manner, allowing them to do the things they need to survive.

A Few Examples

Sponges survive on the sea floor by taking nutrients into their porous bodies. There are conflicting theories as to whether sponges have always been this way or evolved to get rid of their brains to be more energy efficient.

Sea urchins are pointy, spiky animals, you don’t want to step on while at the beach. Fortunately, outside of South Florida, sea urchins are not poisonous. They have various numbers of legs and control feeding by way of a water vascular system. That system changes the amount of pressure and water in its body, in order to move faster. (Starfish operate the same way.) Its mouth is beneath it. They expel waste from the top of their bodies. The sea urchin sits on stones, scraping and feeding on the algae that helps keep the ocean clean.

Sea urchin innards

Sea cucumbers look like worms and feed on plankton. They’re everywhere and extremely dangerous. They can release a toxic substance (holothurin), which can blind humans permanently. However, without a brain, they’re not a deliberate threat. There are more than a thousand types of sea cucumbers. Many of the species live in deep water. They feed instinctively, using tubular feet around the mouth to catch and take aquatic invertebrates, algae, and waste. These creatures exhibit asexual and sexual reproduction.

Jellyfish (sea gooseberry) anatomy

Jellyfish (or “jellies”) are a family of translucent animals, famous—perhaps infamous—for their sting. When their tentacles touch a foreign object (such as a swimmer) they release a shooting sting. That sting releases a toxin capable of neutralizing or killing most intruders, though humans usually experience only temporary misery. Jellyfish are uniquely mobile. All other brainless animals are pretty much stationary, often spending their entire lives in a single spot. However, jellyfish move with the current in oceans and bays. They also squirt water to move forward. Thus they can propel themselves toward prey, such as plankton. Their ability to move also helps them avoid predators, such as fish, turtles, and seabirds. The jellyfish functions through a network of sensory nerves.

Bottom Line: Animals have the number, size, and structure of the brains they need to live, function, and reproduce.

Additional Fun Fact: Last week, I talked about how there are museums for seemingly everything out there. I’ve found a Museum of Scientifically Accurate Fabric Brain Art at the University of Oregon!

ALL THE LONELY PEOPLE

A Healthy Minds Monthly Poll reported by the American Psychiatric Association (APA) in early in 2024 found that 30% of adults said they experienced feelings of loneliness at least once a week while 10% said they felt lonely every day over the past year. Unless otherwise noted the following assertions are from this poll.

What do I mean by lonely? “Feeling like you do not have meaningful or close relationships or a sense of belonging.” This is the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC)’s definition of loneliness.

Who are All These Lonely People?

They’re young. People aged 18-34 were the loneliest, with 30% saying they felt lonely every day or several times a week.

They’re single. Singles were nearly twice as likely as married adults to say they had been lonely on a weekly basis over the past year (39% vs. 22%).

Overall, 63% of men reported feelings of loneliness in this year’s survey, a ten-point increase from a year ago. For women, the increase was not as sharp; 58% of women reported loneliness this year, up from 54% a year ago.

In May 2023, U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy, M.D., M.B.A., called loneliness a public health epidemic. APA President Petros Levounis, M.D., M.A. said, “The U.S. Surgeon General is correct to label it as a public health problem with troubling outcomes…”

Where are We not Lonely?

The 2200 survey respondents ranked areas where they felt the highest sense of community and belonging:

  • Among their family (65%)
  • With friends (53%)
  • In their neighborhoods (20%)
  • At work (17%)
  • On social media (16%)
  • At the gym or fitness classes (5%)
  • With sports and recreational teams (4%)
  • In online communities and discussion forums (3%)

Responses to many options hovered toward the middle (full details available in the report).

How Do People Cope?

Respondents reported easing their loneliness many ways (selected from a list of choices provided) most notably:

  • Younger adults are more likely than older adults to say they use drugs or alcohol when feeling lonely.
  • Females are 1.5 times more likely than males to say they reach out to a friend or family member.

Is Technology a Help or a Hindrance?

Technology, when used carefully, can help alleviate loneliness. Many survey participants reported that technology…

  • “Helps me form new relationships” (66%)
  • “Helps me connect with others more frequently” (75%),
  • “Is beneficial for forming and maintaining relationships” (69%)

However, respondents were split on the types of relationships technology fosters, “meaningful (54%)” or “superficial (46%).”

Saul Levin, M.D., M.P.A., APA CEO and Medical Director

Age and Technology

Various sources slice the pie differently, but basically support the conclusions of the APA report. According to a CNBC report of January, 2023 a survey of 10,000 adults found:

  • Three out of every five adults, or 61%, report that they sometimes or always feel lonely, according to the Cigna U.S. Loneliness Index. That’s up 7 percent from the previous year.
  • Among workers aged 18-22, 73% report sometimes or always feeling alone, up from 69% a year previously.

There is a greater feeling of loneliness among people who use social media more frequently, the study found. One reason younger people feel more isolated may be their greater tendency to use social media. The study found an increasing correlation between social media usage and feelings of loneliness. Seven out of 10 heavy social media users, 71%, reported feelings of loneliness, up from 53% a year ago. That compares to 51% of light social media users feeling lonely, up from 47% a year ago.

Lonely on the Job

At work, men appear to feel much more isolated than women. Forty percent of men reported feeling a general sense of emptiness when they’re at work, compared to 29% of women.

Another reason younger people may feel more alienated could have to do with being at the bottom rung of the employment ladder. Entry-level workers scored significantly higher on the Cigna Loneliness index than experienced workers, middle managers and executives. More than half felt there’s no one at work they can turn to.

Nearly two-thirds of workers who’d been at a job less than six months reported experiencing isolation, compared to just 40% workers who’ve been with a firm for 10 years or more.

But it is just as lonely at the top of the ladder. Fifty-six percent of senior executives reported feeling there’s no one they can talk to, with 69% saying that no one really knows them well.

Baby Boomers and workers older than 72 are the most likely to feel that they generally have people they can turn to at work and really understand them, with only 18% reported feeling alienated on the job.

Cigna researchers estimate that employees who feel socially isolated miss work as much as five times more than their connected co-workers due to stress, and are twice as likely as to think about quitting their jobs.

Health Risks of the Lonely

Social isolation and loneliness can increase risk for health and work problems:

  • Heart disease and stroke
  • Type 2 diabetes
  • Depression and anxiety
  • Suicidality and self-harm
  • Dementia
  • Earlier death

Cost of Loneliness

As with so much in the healthcare system, cost is often what triggers getting help. The hope is that by addressing some of the so-called social determinants of health that contribute to isolation among seniors, Medicare can reduce spending. To this end:

  • Medicare plans are offering greater flexibility to focus on the impact of social isolation on the health of older adults.
  • Researchers from AARP and Stanford University found that the government spends more than $6.7 billion annually on additional medical costs for Medicare recipients who lack social contact.
  • Cigna is advising companies to do greater outreach about mental health counseling to help workers deal with stress.
  • Cigna also offers expanded virtual mental health services to make accessing care more convenient and attractive for younger workers.
  • Employers should also look for ways to promote greater in-person communication among workers, including programs that foster more connections like affinity groups and volunteer activities.
  • The Cigna study found that people who get more time interacting face to face with others at work feel less lonely or alienated. More than half of remote workers who telecommute, 58%, reported feeling left out at work.

How to Deal With Loneliness

Please note: the following are on-line suggestions, offered for information only, not as professional advice.

Alone vs Lonely

Know your loneliness is normal. Everyone goes through lonely periods in life. Feeling lonely does not mean there’s something wrong with you. Feelings of loneliness often come and go during life. Sometimes the best thing to do is accept you feel lonely in the current circumstances and that this is okay.

  • Boost your self-esteem by finding things to do that are achievable and building on them little by little.
  • Enjoy your own company. Spending time alone can be liberating and being alone with your thoughts can be a great way of winding down.
  • Often we like the company of people who are comfortable in themselves. Learning to be on your own and like your own company is a step towards this kind of confidence.
  • Online communities can be a great social outlet, but do not rely on them too much. Make sure you balance your social life and make the effort to talk to people in person.
  • Take what you see online with a pinch of salt. People often publish the best of themselves online. Try not to compare yourself to other people’s photos and posts. And don’t spend too much time online.

Meeting New People

Keeping yourself busy is a good way to deal with loneliness.

  • Parenting alone can also feel isolating, especially when your children are younger. It may be helpful to seek out adult company and maintain existing friendships.
  • If you’re on your own in a new place, a hobby can be a great way of meeting new people and making new friends.
  • If you’re feeling lonely for no obvious reason, doing an evening class or sport can help take your mind off it. Consider activities to do with others.
  • Being unemployed can also can cause you to feel isolated. If you’re bored or cannot find a job, volunteer with an organization you care about or an event you might be interested in. Feeling needed and useful is important sometimes.
  • When you’re lonely, you may place too much weight on new friendships and relationships. Build trust gradually, take it slow and accept your new friends as they are. Take your time with new relationships.
  • Be wary of certain groups. Cults and gangs often target lonely people, knowing they might be vulnerable. Make sure the group you join is a positive influence and makes you feel good about yourself.

Getting Support

If you’re constantly lonely for no obvious reason, it could be a sign of depression. This is something you should talk about to family, friends, a counsellor, or your GP.

CrisisTextLine offers free, confidential support via text or chat. (Text 741741)

The AARP has initiatives to help people build community and volunteer. The also have a Friendly Voice helpline to call if you’re looking for a friendly person to talk to.

Just like dating apps, friendship apps allow people the opportunity to match with potential new friends online. Two examples are BumbleBFF and MeetMyPaws.

MeetUp is a social networking website that allows users to organize in-person activities to meet others who share their interests or hobbies.

Bottom Line: Loneliness is pervasive, normal, and problematic for good health and work success. Choose a way to cope that works for you;

DANCING

One of my favorite books is Pride and Prejudice (Jane Austen) and in one famous scene, Sir William is extolling dance as an exemplar of culture and elegance. Darcy observes that every savage can dance.

10,000 year old painting of dancers, Bhimbetka, India

To put it more elegantly: Dancing has always been a part of human culture, rituals, and celebrations. It promotes creativity, as well as healthy minds and bodies.

Many belly dancers perform in restaurants and at parties.

According to a friend of mine who belly dances, that form of dancing does all of the above. “Belly dancing has historic roots in fertility rites or celebrations in some areas. I’ve performed at baby showers and bachelorette parties. It’s so much fun, and I’ve met so many friends through dancing. It also helps me stay in shape and keep flexible. I get to design costumes, learn music, and create choreography while learning this amazing art form!”

Obviously, any given dance might serve multiple purposes. For this blog, I’ll focus on three categories.

Ceremonial Dance

Since humans formed societies, social groups have created or performed ceremonial dances for rituals or celebrations. People use ceremonial dances all over the world for worship, or to celebrate life events. The unique British tradition of Morris dancing, for example, is performed at seasonal festivals and holidays to banish the dark of winter, celebrate the warmth and fertility of summer, and bring in autumn’s golden harvest. The category of ceremonial dance also includes classical Indian dances, war dances, corroboree, Căluşari, and dances of Native American and West African culture.

Adumu, the Maasai jumping dance, forms an important part of coming of age ceremonies, weddings, and celebration rituals. Participants dress in colorful garments and traditional jewelry and often carry spears. Individual dancers compete with each other to jump as high as possible while maintaining a straight and upright posture. Dancers are judged on the height of their jumps as well as their grace.

Marinera Paso is a Mestizo dance that mimics courtship rituals in Peru. The female dancer, accompanied by Spanish, African, and Creole instruments, marks the rhythm and leads her partner on horseback.

Dancing the Haka involves a combination of stamping, chanting, showing the whites of the eyes, and rhythmically slapping body parts with the hands. Maori people perform various Haka forms to welcome guests, issue challenges, and mourn loved ones. Recently, the Te Pāti Māori party went viral for performing a Haka in the New Zealand Parliament to express their opposition to a proposed bill.

Young women in Bali perform the Rejang Adat to welcome the gods during Kunnigan. They do not train or practice before the ceremony. Instead, they rely on their ngayah (dedication) to allow the gods to inspire their movement and harmony.

Rain Dances

Many agricultural societies have a tradition of rain dances. These dances ask the gods or spirits to send water for crops during the planting season. Other rain dances ask for rain during long periods of dry, hot weather. In Romania and Moldova, a young girl dresses in a skirt made of corn husks and dances through the village streets while people splash water on her. In 2022, the Dumagat tribe performed a rain dance during a drought in the Philippines. They claimed success as it rained three days later.

In the Southwestern United States, many tribes, including the Pueblo, Hopi, Zuni, and Apache, have elaborate rain dance traditions. The specifics of the dances vary from tribe to tribe. Most tribes have unique rituals and costumes, with some tribes wearing headdresses and others wearing masks.

In the early 19th century, the United States government banned certain ceremonial dances. To bypass these strict laws, tribal members would mask their ceremonial performances as “rain dances.”

Dance for Recreation and Community

This is any form of dancing that is for entertainment, fitness, fun, or strengthening community ties. Also known as social dancing, it uses dance without too much structure, as a way to let loose and express one’s own individual personality. Dancers focus less on form and technique and more on the joy they feel from dancing. Examples of recreational dancing include ballroom, line dancing, aerobic dance, or dance as a hobby.

Gumboot Dance evolved from mines in South Africa. Workers unable to communicate verbally developed a system of stomping signals to pass messages.

Ballroom Dance

Like many forms of dance, dancesport has been adapted for a range of abilities.

Historians trace the history of ballroom dance back to the 16th century in Europe, where it was primarily a social activity for the upper classes. However, it wasn’t until the 19th century that participants began to formalize and standardize ballroom.

Commonly used as shorthand for any partner dance, ballroom has today evolved into two main sub-genres: standard/smooth and Latin/rhythm. Dances within these categories include the waltz, tango and foxtrot, and the pasodoble, bolero, and samba.

Ballroom is a popular form of competitive dance, or dancesport, with dancers participating in competitions all over the world.

Who can think of ballroom dancing without envisioning Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers? Well, certainly not people of a certain age or old movie buffs.

The duo made 10 movies together in the 1930s and ‘40s. Their unique style was graceful and complex, while looking effortless. Perhaps the clearest legacy today are Fred Astaire Dance Studios, such as this one near Richmond, VA.

Community Dancing

People in many Eastern European communities celebrate by dancing the hora. As there are no formal steps to learn, it is common for newcomers to be welcomed in, like these American servicemembers invited to join their Romanian colleagues.

Community dancing often requires no formal training, choreography, or practice. It is sometimes completely spontaneous, such as mosh pits at rock and heavy metal concerts. Though communities often dance together at celebrations, such as weddings or birthdays, the dancing is not necessarily part of the ceremony.

There are many benefits to dancing in a group. Dancing together creates the same sense of group identity as singing or chanting in unison. Participants experience a reduction in stress and a release of endorphins.

In some instances, a Master of Ceremonies calls out steps for the group to follow. A dancemaster sometimes calls Irish céilí steps at social dances. The Electric Slide and the Cha-Cha Slide, popular at American weddings, feature a singer directing the participants in a simple choreography.

Some dances, like the Macarena, permeate society so thoroughly that it seems everyone knows the choreography. Other dances, like Armenian group dances, are simple and repetitive enough for beginners to follow the steps of more experiences dancers.

At Drag On Ball, 2018

Within marginalized communities, dancing is often a way of finding community and demonstrating belonging. Ballroom culture (not to be confused with ballroom dancing) in the United States grew from the gatherings of LGBT+ African Americans in the late 19th and early 20th centuries.

Participants combine recreational, community dancing with dancing for artistic expression. Dancers vogue, strut, and catwalk in elaborate choreographies and costumes to represent their “houses” and found families. Depending on one’s definition of ceremony and ritual, participating in these events could also be seen as modern cultural rites for people who have been denied acceptance in the cultures they were born into.

Dance for Artistic Expression

Shosogatsu dance theater
Shosagatsu, a form of Japanese Kabuki, blurs the line between dance and narrative theater.

Many artists dance with the primary intent to express or communicate emotion, feelings, and/or ideas. These dancers, including ballet, tap, and modern dancers, often perform in a concert or theatrical setting to an audience. Using rhythmic, patterned, or improvised body movement, it’s one of the oldest art forms found in every culture around the world.

For many people, artistic expression conjures images of ballet. Ballet developed during the Italian Renaissance, before evolving in France and Russia into concert dancing meant for public performance. Ballet choreographers often use classical music.

Harlequin Floors—a purveyor of dance floors—lists what they call popular types of dance on their blog. Ballroom and ballet are perennial favorites, but dancing doesn’t stop there!

Contemporary Dance

Developed during the mid-twentieth century, contemporary dance is now one of the most popular and technical forms of dancing studied and performed professionally, especially in the US and Europe. Drawing on classical, modern and jazz dance styles, contemporary dance has evolved to incorporate many characteristics of a broader range of dance forms. Known for its emphasis on strong torso and legwork, contract and release, fall and recovery, and floor work, it often features unpredictable and disordered changes in speed and rhythm throughout a performance.

Alvin Ailey  Dance Theater
As a cultural ambassador, the Alvin Ailey American Dance Theater showcases a blend of American and traditional dance styles to audiences worldwide.

Hip Hop Dance

Hip hop dance
B-Boys and B-Girls combine hip hop dancing with acrobatics and rhythmic freezes, as demonstrated by this breakdancer in Union Square.

Hip-hop dancing refers to a range of street dances that developed in relation to hip hop music and culture. Hip-hop dancing dates back to the early 1970s in New York and California, evolving out of Funk and the development of break beat. Main styles of hip-hop dancing include Breaking, Locking and Popping, with derivative styles emerging out of these including Memphis Jookin’, Turfing, Jerkin’ and Krumping. These were often popularized and made mainstream after being featured in music videos of the time.

Today, hip-hop is performed in outdoor spaces, in dance studios, and competitively. Unlike many competitive dance styles, hip-hop is often improvisational with dance crews challenging each other to dance battles.

Jazz

Bollywood dance
Bollywood dancing (the style often showcased in Bollywood movies) feature a combination of Indian classical and jazz styles to create a uniquely recognizable form.

Jazz dancing has its roots in seventeenth-century African traditions. People brought to the Americas via the Atlantic slave trade continued dancing traditions in Brazil, the US, and elsewhere in North and South America. Known for its improvisational and dramatic body movements, jazz dancing grew in popularity in early twentieth-century jazz clubs.

Today, jazz dancing builds on African American vernacular dance styles that emerged along with jazz music in the United States. Swing, the Lindy Hop, the Shimmy, and the Charleston are popular kinds of jazz dances.

Tap

Zapateado dance
Zapateado dancers in Mexico combine Spanish and Indigenous South American dance elements with percussive shoe rhythms.

Tap dancing is a type of percussive dance characterized by the “tap” of shoes hitting the floor as the person dances. Tap dancers often wear metal “taps” on the heel and toe of a shoe to accentuate the sound. Frequently performed as part of musical theater, tap dancing often focuses on choreography and formations, with more than one tap dancer performing at once.

Tap dancing characterizes a range of dances including flamenco, rhythm, classical, Broadway, and postmodern tap.

Folk

Modern Samoan knife dancers often wrap their knives in burning cloth for extra pizzazz when performing Siva Afi, the traditional victory dance.

Folk dancing is celebrated worldwide. People of different cultures and religions use various forms of folk dance to portray emotions, stories, historical events or even aspects of daily life. Some well known types of folk dance include: Bharatanatyam (India), Samba (Brazil) and Hula (Hawaii). Some cultures may even perform multiple variations of folk dances, with countries like South Korea performing individual dances for key events such as victories in war, farming, music and religion. Folk dances are commonly held at public events, where people can participate regardless of whether they are professional or complete beginners. Such dances are often accompanied by traditional music to further enhance the cultural experience.

Irish

Irish dance
Irish dancing features jumps and leaps so high that dancers seem to have the temporary ability to ignore gravity.

Traditional Irish folk dance has been popular for hundreds of years amongst Irish people and other countries worldwide. The first recording of the rinnce fada (long dance) in Ireland was in 1689, when James II first came to Ireland. Popularized by shows such as Riverdance, Irish dancing is famously known for its fabulous display of footwork and dance formations. Most Irish dancing events are traditionally accompanied by signing and music. During festivals, dancers compete for trophies or medals to showcase their talents. While most people may recognize Irish dancing as being a group performance, there are many well-known forms of  solo Irish dances, such as the stepdance.

Modern

Igor Stravinsky’s “Rite of Spring” was such a departure from the formal ballets of the time that it caused a riot in the audience at its premiere in 1913.

Modern dance, a broad genre of dance, primarily arose from western countries such as the USA and Germany during the late 1900s. While most forms of dance feature set steps and formalized structure, the purpose of modern dance is to rely on the dancer’s interpretation of the music and feeling to guide movements. Modern dance was initially born out of dislike for the limitations of traditional dances such as ballet, which enforced rigid rules and techniques. Currently, modern dance is enjoyed across the world with participants having the ability to practice ballet-like dancing without having to place strict focus on their techniques or turnout. Instead, dancers can choose a piece of music and use unconventional movements to convey emotions or to tell a meaningful story.

Swing

Jitterbug dance
Jitterbug” was originally a derogatory term for a swing dancer, in the 1930s. As Big Band music and swing dancing became more popular, people came to use jitterbug interchangeably with swing dancing and Lindy Hop.

Swing is a variation of jazz dance. It developed during the 1920s to the 1940s as a response to the growing popularity of swing jazz music in America, encouraging faster, more rigorous movements. The Lindy Hop was the first form of swing, stemming from variations of the Charleston perfected by Black dancers in Harlem. Other popular forms of swing dance include the Lindy Charleston, the Jitterbug, and the Balboa, many of which are still performed today. Big Band music, whether live or on a recording, commonly accompanied swing dancing events.

Swing dance gained huge popularity in England thanks to the influence of American servicemen stationed there during World War II.

Pacu Jalur

And then there’s an annual dance event reported on in the Wall Street Journal (8/19/25). Where would you include this dance?

Pacu Jalur dance
Team Panglima Rimbo Piako

Kuantan Singingi, Indonesia holds an annual boat race, called Pacu Jalur, dating back to a 17th century celebration commemorating Queen Wilhelmina’s birthday during the Dutch rule. Today, it coincides with Indonesia’s Independence Day. Some 200 boats compete in a series of races, culminating in the main event, six-tenths of a mile long and lasting approximately two minutes. The hull of the jalur (boat) is usually 100 feet long, made from a single tree. Each boat is powered by 40 to 75 male rowers.

So where does the dancing come in? Each boat also has one dancer (anak joki)—always a boy for minimal weight and ability to balance while dancing on the bow, which is less than 1 foot wide! He wears traditional Malay outfits, cheers on the rowers, and performs 20-second dances to signal to bystanders when his boat is ahead. Each boat dancer has his own routine.

Today the most famous dancer is Dikha, whose dance—appearing effortlessly cool, smooth, and easy to copy—has been mimicked in celebratory dances by a football star, a soccer player, an F1 driver, as well as miscellaneous people at the office, on their cars, and inside Costco. Dikha’s dance mimics fanning air, flying, and shooting guns.

Bottom Line: “Dance”—for a plethora of reasons—has always been with us. Dare I predict it always will be? Enjoy!

A GLASS BY ANY OTHER SHAPE

The important question isn’t whether the glass is half empty or half full, but how it likely affects your drinking.

Wide-Rimmed or Narrow-Rimmed Glass?

A recent (July 2, 2025) article in The Wall Street Journal reported on research which indicates that people prefer wider-rimmed glasses to narrow ones, are willing to spend more on drinks in wider glasses, and are more likely to reorder drinks served in wider rimmed glasses. In addition, “Drinking from wider glasses even makes them feel better.” I dug into environmental factors that affect drinking.

Glass Size and Drinking Amount

It is well known that people eat and drink more when using larger crockery and glasses. One study found that when a bar in Cambridge served wine in larger glasses, the amount customers bought and drank increased by an average of 9 per cent.

Glass shape does not affect actual drink pours in the US but glass size does, at least in some cases. In this research, larger glass size/volume was associated with larger on-premise pours of straight shots and mixed drinks; thus, the large-glass drinks were found to contain more alcohol than drinks served in short, wide glasses. Drinks poured in short, wide glasses did not contain more alcohol than drinks poured in tall, thin glasses. (As an aside: some research shows that bars with mostly black patrons serve spirits drinks with more alcohol than bars with other patrons.)

Glass Shape and Drinking Amount

The shape of a glass can influence how much people drink, particularly with alcoholic beverages.

Studies have shown that people tend to drink faster from curved glasses compared to straight glasses. Perhaps this is because curved glasses make it harder to judge how much liquid remains, which can affect how quickly someone paces their drinking.

Tess Langfield, et. al., published reports of three laboratory experiments measuring consumption of soft drinks served in straight-sided vs. outward-sloped glasses.

  • In one study, although total drinking time was the same, participants drank more in the first half of the drinking session.
  • In a second study, during a bogus taste test, participants consumed less from straight-sided wine flutes than outward-sloped martini coupes.
  • In a third study, looking for facial expressions associated with decreased consumption, straight-sided glasses elicited more ‘pursed’ lip embouchures, which may partly explain reduced consumption from these glasses.

Using a combination of methods, including measures of amount drunk and physiological measures, the authors suggest that “switching to straight-sided glasses may be one intervention contributing to the many needed to reduce consumption of health-harming drinks.”

Glass Shape and Drinking Speed

Researchers at the University of Bristol report that people drink more quickly from curved glasses than straight ones.

They argue that the curvy glassware makes pacing yourself a much greater challenge.

Researchers filmed a group of 159 men and women drinking either soft drinks or beer. The glasses all contained around half a pint of liquid, but some of the glasses were straight while others were very curved (a “fluted” glass with a curvy taper to a narrow base).

There was no difference in the drinking time for soft drinks.

However, for the beer drinkers there was a big difference: it took around seven minutes for people drinking from a curved glass to polish off their half pint, but 11 minutes for those drinking from a straight glass. The report said: “Drinking time is slowed by almost 60% when an alcoholic beverage is presented in a straight glass compared with a curved glass.”

Could it be that curvy glasses made it harder to pace drinking because judging how much is in the glass is more difficult for a curved shape? When researchers showed drinkers pictures of partially-filled beer glasses and asked participants to say whether they were more or less than half full, they were more likely to get the answer wrong when assessing the amount of liquid in curved glasses. The lead researcher Dr Angela Attwood told the BBC, “They are unable to judge how quickly they are drinking so cannot pace themselves.” She also said altering the glasses used in pubs could “nudge” people to drink more healthily by “giving control back”.

In addition, other research found that people were more likely to pour extra alcohol into short, wide glasses than tall, narrow ones.

Glass Color

Then, too, the color of a glass can affect how much people drink. Studies have shown that the contrast between the glass and the color of the wine influences how much people pour. For example, when pouring white wine into a clear glass, participants poured 9% more than when pouring red wine, which had a greater contrast to the glass.

Don’t Trust Yourself!

Researchers at Cornell University found that, when wine drinkers were asked to pour what they considered a normal drink, they poured about 12 percent more wine into a wide glass than a standard one. The same was true when holding a glass while pouring compared with placing the glass on a table. “People have trouble assessing volumes,” said lead author Laura Smarandescu, and, “They tend to focus more on the vertical than the horizontal measures. That’s why people tend to drink less when they drink from a narrow glass, because they think they’re drinking more.”

Thus, research shows that several external factors affect how much people drink. Studies show that larger groups also often correspond with greater alcohol consumption, especially when social norms encourage drinking. I suspect most people are aware of this social effect. But the less obvious effects of size, shape, and color of one’s glass need your attention as well. And in all cases, measure standard drinks, not “free pours.”

Why? Because there’s a whole lot of drinking going on!

How Much Do We Drink?

According to the 2023 NSDUH report, of adults ages 18 and older, 67.1% reported that they drank in the past year. Of adults ages 18 and older, 51.6% reported that they drank in the past month. Among adults ages 18 and older, 6.3% reported heavy alcohol use in the past month. (The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA) defines heavy alcohol use for men as consuming five or more drinks on any day or 15 or more per week; for women, consuming four or more drinks on any day or eight or more per week.) And 23.5% of adults 18 and older reported binge drinking in the past month. (The NIAAA defines binge drinking according to blood alcohol levels that result when a typical adult male has five or more drinks, four or more drinks for a female, in about two hours.)

Approximately 178,000 deaths occur each year due to excessive drinking.

While bartenders and other purveyors of drinks—particularly alcoholic beverages—might claim differently, there is much evidence that people should consume less alcohol. And no amount is too little!

Bottom Line: Using the information above can reduce alcohol intake pretty painlessly, and discretely. No reason not to!